DOTW: A Forced Wedding Or A Forced Marriage?

Hey Guys!

*embarrassed muh*

So umm.. as most of you know, I STILL haven't been able to watch all the LTL episodes and catch up. No matter HOW hard I try, something or the other always comes up. *sigh*. BUT! I still have something that has been running in my mind about this "Marriage Track" that I wanted to put into words.

So we all know that Dutta married Nakku by force to punish her for her "betrayal". He took her as his wife by force on gun point (if I'm not mistaken). But what was bothering me was, that just because a guy (in this case Dutta) marries you by force does it mean that the said marriage is "real"? Should you have to spend the rest of your life with that guy or should you have to ask for divorce? Should you HAVE to get out of that "marriage" as you would a regular marriage? Is following the rituals under force enough to make you married to them - in your eyes and in the eyes of the law?

Or should you be able to walk away like it never happened? Just because someone forces you to do something in a drunken stupor, should you have to then bear the consequences of it? Or do you get to erase the slate clean (so to speak) and disregard it entirely?

Basically what I was wondering about was - Is this just a forced wedding where all the rituals were followed and executed? Or is this a forced marriage, where the bride is supposed to be a part of it for better or for worst even though she had no say in the matter?

*sigh* I apologize if this makes NO sense - I promise it makes sense in my brain but I feel it's losing its sanity in the whole transition from my brain to this post. 😆

But if you understand this and have an opinion about this, I'd love to hear it!! *excited muh*

*waits in anticipation*

Ahaaa now heres something i was thinking about as well Fivz! In my eyes, sucha marriage doesnt count a penny! Its absurd! And i were nakusha, i would throw the damn 'mangalsutra' off, and run away. Of course nakusha thinks otherwise, but if it were upto me, I would run away from there, as soon as possible!

ohh lemme think somemore, and then add up :D

Nice DOTW.

Kaali Dhabba on the top of ur necks working after all eh? 🤣

Mwaahhzzz
Cindy

nice debating topic . 😊

@ cindy

i completely disagree with u, n i ll tell u why ... 😊

i ll edit my post in a while ..Edited by SAraW - 13 years ago

^^ sara di- i kneww it! :D
waitngg to read :P

Intresting will come up with something once my bheja start working😆

Originally posted by: cool.sindhya

Ahaaa now heres something i was thinking about as well Fivz! In my eyes, sucha marriage doesnt count a penny! Its absurd! And i were nakusha, i would throw the damn 'mangalsutra' off, and run away. Of course nakusha thinks otherwise, but if it were upto me, I would run away from there, as soon as possible!

ohh lemme think somemore, and then add up :D

Nice DOTW.

Kaali Dhabba on the top of ur necks working after all eh? 🤣

Mwaahhzzz
Cindy

This appears to be the new rage in TV--force weddings (on Zee as well). It's the style du jour. Yes, I agree that if you are forced into it, then it does not count--no matter how much sindhoor Dutta puts on Naku's head and nose! To be quite honest, while Naku was not expecting the pheras and she had no choice really, she did not OPPOSE them in her feelings. I think she wanted to be there for him, and this needed to happen given his state of mind.

I was actually a bit irritated when she kept saying to her mother that she was married to Dutta...sindhoor...etc. She wants to believe in the marriage, no matter how it came about, and I guess at the end of the day, that's what decides if the marriage is real or not.

Talking for forced marriages to me the TaSha wedding didnt look forced. Definitely not for the groom and neither for the bride. The gun Dutta weilded was for anyone who was trying to stop the wedding rather than to force Naku. In fact if I feel if Naku wanted she could have stopped Dutta. He sort of dared Naku to do that. To accept that she lied abt loving him and back out.
But yes the marriage and the new relationship between TaSha was forced for their families. Thats the reason neither families have accepted the marriage. In fact they dont consider the marriage a marriage at all. They consider it a hasty decision taken in a fit of rage by a hot headed and drunken guy. But for TaSha the marriage wasnt forced and thats why they both have accepted it and know its for keeps.
Coming to your original question if such a forced marriage is valid then my answer is no its not valid. A marriage is valid only if both parties ie the bride and groom accept it. But if one party hasnt and he/she was forced to go thru with the rituals then the marriage is definitely invalid. But here both parties went thru the rituals willingly. Dutta's motive was revenge while Naku's motive was to give her a way to be with the man she loves and ease his pain. So THAT makes their marriage valid.

gud topic fivr wellllll😆ahem well if dis happened in reality den i wudnt count dis as a marriage since it happened zabardasti i knw i knw i wanted it 2 and am glad but its nt real is it like in reality😆so if i was naku i wud have run away da first chance i gt and she did get dat chance wen kala threw her out and tld dutta dat she ran away she just didnt want 2 leave but in a way i can understand naku wanting 2 stay first she loves da guy and in love marriage wat ever u shud be able 2 take wat evers thrown at u and stick by da person and secondly a lot of girls believe in getting married only once dosent matter how they gt married but 2 dem dat marriage does count but cuming bk 2 me😆if i gt 2 marry dutta at gunpoint i wud have sed uve gtta be kidding gun kyun chahiyeh mein apkey peeche peeche arahey hoon na🤣

nice DOTW Fivr...👏👏👏...

In general, I feel these marriages should be nullified/annuled and probabaly there is a clause in law for such marriages....A marriage shld not be considered marriage till both the parties are into it, whle heartedly......

Edited by Dancingdoll - 13 years ago