Posted: 11 June 2010 at 9:30pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by *Woh Ajnabee*
Also, I would like to add that hate crimes have been quite prevalent throughout American history. I am sure that being a lesbian couple will incite a lot of problems for this family. Indian society may make the unwed mother an outcast and banish her, but I think the American family will be facing many more struggles.
With so much opposition found in society, the lesbian couple will either have to hide their sexual orientation and pretend to be something they are not, or they will have to come out of closet and then face the challenges that stand in front of them.
The 90s were a time where gay couples were fighting for civil rights - and that included protests, marches, and lots and lots of opposition. Do you think that the lesbian couple will be able to provide their child with physical and emotional comfort during this time?
The number of hate crimes against homosexuals were at their peak in the 90s. Homosexuals were brutally murdered for their sexual orientation in the US during this decade - from being beaten to death, raped, shot at gay bars among other awful crimes - do you think this is a safe environment to raise a child? If society does not accept a same-sex couple, what makes you think they will accept a same-sex family? Will the young child be able to cope with this much mental stress to the point where it is fear for one's life?
First of all, isn't it good that at least the protests are there? This shows a sense of oneness and a sense of fighting for their rights among gays/lesbians (LGBTs). LGBTs usually stay together and support each other. Moreover, their protests are producing fruits now. That kid will be involved in a meaningful fight that in turn would bear fruits later . He/she will fight for her mother's rights and will start winning in the years to come. Nothing like this when it comes to the sense of achievement.
On the other hand, where is this sense of community in unwed mothers in India? Where are the protests for the rights of unwed mothers in India?
About Hate crimes -- You have to consider the statistics as well. It is reported in  (I will look for 90s stats as well, but 2004 is also 6 years ago from now) that "Of the 9,528 victims of hate crimes in 2004, ... 15.6
percent were attacked because of a sexual-orientation bias. The
majority of those victims, 60.9 percent, were the objects of anti-male
homosexual attitudes on the part of the offenders."
Majority were against Anti-male homosexuals (902) victims as compared to Anti-Female homosexual victims that were 212. People attack women less.
Given the low number of lesbian victims (212), given very good law and order implementation in USA and strong sense of community among LGBTs, one wouldn't loose sleep over this.
However, is the law and order situation good in small towns of India? Who will protect the unwed mother from criminals, sexual harassers, religious extremists, stone pelting? In fact, who will protect her from the corrupt police officers who rape women (see ACP Rathore case - cases like that dont come out in open everyday. They dont get justice everyday, but who will file FIR against police in India?)? Some of these perverts will assume that the lonely unwed mother is immoral because she is unwed mother.
Edited by karandel_2008 - 11 June 2010 at 10:16pm