Posted: 07 June 2010 at 11:51am | IP Logged
Originally posted by *Woh Ajnabee*
If I had to choose between the two lifestyles, I would pick being born to an unwed mother in small town India. Despite the taboo associated with premarital sex and unwed mothers, I think I would be able to live a better life in India as opposed to the US. Although the US has greater opportunities and may be able to provide a better lifestyle, there are kids born in India everyday to middle class families, who lead decent lives.
From bolded text, I take it from here that you agree that US has better opportunities and a better lifestyle. About text highlighted in Red, doesn't it lack conviction when we read the bold part?
Also, what is your definition of leading decent lives in India according to you?
Society may not be accepting of my mother's marital status, but there are many kids in the nation that grow up without a paternal figure in their lives day in and day out. I would be one of them, and I'd have my mother to support me, raise me, and comfort me.
Its sure, that the kid to unwed mother will live his/her life day in and day out, but here we are talking about which is better. What makes you think that just growing means living a better life for those many kids?
Because at the end of the day, I think the bigger stigma should be given to my father, who left my mother without marrying her.
No one points a finger towards blank space. They point fingers towards who is in front of them and that unfortunately is the mother and the kid. Moreover, this is the Taboo about which we are talking in the topic. However, unlike in the case of lesbian-mom-kid, this will also effect the unwed-mom-kid because he/she may think that if he was not born in the first place then this taboo wouldn't have existed.
I do not deny that the challenges I will face due to the difficulties of being a fatherless child will be fierce, however, I do think I'll have a much easier life as compared to a child who grows up with a lesbian couple. In society, I will only have to explain only my father's absence as opposed to the American child who will not only have to explain the absence of a father, but also a presence of a second mother.
Discussion about this is going on in other post.
Despite America's more accepting nature, same sex couples were, and in many places still are, looked down upon. The child who is raised in this family would go out and see his friends' parents as mom and dad, and come home to mom and mom. How do you expect a child to not only accept that, but also understand that? Is the absence of a father not enough that now the child is held responsible for dealing with society's view of what is considered moral and what is not?
Granted American society has evolved, but even today, you do not go to school and hear a child tell you about his lesbian or gay parents.
Same as above - Discussion about this is going on in other post.
Society may have accepted same sex couples, but to no degree have they accepted families with same-sex parents.
Soceities have accepted same sex couples, but not same-sex parents? Please elaborate it. Anyway according to you at least they have accepted same sex couples in US. However have they accepted unwed moms in India?
Therefore, I think that a child born to an unwed mother in India will be able to overcome the stigma society has set upon him far easier than the child in America will.