Posted: 05 June 2010 at 8:51pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by karandel_2008
@cuckoo: I know that till now I just replied to the possibilities offered by you.
Regarding the points that I can try to defend, here is one (I may not be the first to bring it up):
If we compare 2 cases then in the case of unwed mother, she is alone. Whereas, in the case of lesbian couple they are a couple.
Unwed mother will also need some care and love herself - this factor will also affect the kid. Sometimes she will need some adult to speak her heart out, fend off the social pressure and discuss things with an adult about some important decisions for the kid. However, she will be alone and rather she will have to fend off sexual advances of some men towards her who would try to be "friends" with that lonely woman.
There is a possibility that her parents will join her, but its just a possibility and not a given as per se in the topic. But, feel free to discuss it and I will reply as I am open to some possibilities.
However, in the topic its a given that the lesbian couple will be a couple. "Two plus a child" are better than "a lonely person plus a child", when it comes to fending off social pressure that results from things that are considered a taboo in the society, Its also better because they can consult each other for somethings regarding the kid.
For the lesbian couples, there are other numerous advantages of being a couple. For example, one person can go earn a living and other can take care of the infant, etc.
Karan, more people don't automatically signify a stronger family. Don't you think having a second mother will create more problems for the child? He'll have to grow up in a society that is not too keen on the presence of same-sex couples. Imagine him being in school and writing stories about his two moms when everyone is telling the class about their mom and dad. How can you expect a young child to cope with that scenario?
We all need companionship in our lives, yes, but that does not always mean a significant other. The unwed mother will have family that may support her, she may go out and make friends that will listen to her vent, not everyone needs a significant other to lead their lives.
As far as sexual advances go, just because a woman is single does not automatically entail that men will make sexual advances on her. In fact, the fact that it is a small town where presumably everyone knows each other, I doubt such situations will arise due to fear of public humiliation, etc.
And lastly, earning a living --- there are families all across India and in the US that survive on one parent's income. The child is not an "infant", but a teenager who I'm sure is very well able to take care of him/herself. As far as financial support goes, as I said before, just because the woman is an unwed mother does not automatically mean she is alone. And in that case, I'm sure she can work and support herself and her child or receive financial support from her family.