single parent..

when i was watching yest episode...

Sanjana too had a single parent like Suhana and I believe both the girls had been equally pampered by their dad but I don't understand why the two sisters are poles apart. Both had lost their mother at a very tender age but Suhana's strange behavior towards life is just not justified. She was still not so young when she lost her mother but Sanjana was probably a toddler. Lack of a mother should have affected Sanju more, isn't it?

 

I don't think you can't compare the love of a father and mother. Parent's show their love in different ways. Also men and women are so different with their thinking etc. The bonds may be stronger but I don't think the love is stronger or equal between mother and father. A Father may not be overtly demonstrative...but there's no difference at all in love!

lovely topic dear

Single parenthood is difficult, period. A child needs the balanced perspective of a dual-parent home, which provides the child a wholesome and complete environment to grow and flourish.

But a huge CAVEAT to my statement above, having both parents is meaningful only if the the house is loving and nurturing. A child can really wilt under the pressure of family tensions, verbal battle or even abuse by one spouse. In such cases, its better that the child grow with one parent or even adoptive parents who can provide stability and a loving environment.

A single parent bears a heavier burden to raise a child. In SGP, however, having a joint family around you provides plenty of male and female members who can fill in the gaps in a childs environment and play the role of a mother or a father.

Suhana missed out on this because from what I see, she belongs to a nuclear family, which was composed of her parents and siblings. There was no one to step into the role of her mother, on her passing.

I have a theory about why Suhana may be acting out more than Sanju at the loss of mother. Suhana remembers her mother more and probably misses her more, exacerbating her pain and sense of loss. Sanju must barely remember her mother and may not share the same sense of loss. To Sanju, the picture of a mother might be  shaped by what her dad and her sister tell her, without having had the opportunity to form her own memories about her mother. This might explain why Suhana became who she is while Sanju is more balanced and centered.
Edited by serialjunkie - 13 years ago

Very nice topic. Edited by *dewdrop~pearl* - 13 years ago

@ swetha - 

As serialjunkie said, single parenting is difficult. There is no substitution of father or mother. Suhana would have been definitely a different person has she been raised by her mother. This aspect was beautiful shown in one of the episodes. It is a flash back of Suhana remembering one of her b'days opening her gifts... Suhana starts opening the bigger and beautifully wrapped ones first and  disappointed that none of the gifts are worthy. Her mom hands Suhana a small and ordinarily wrapped gift to try if that turns out to be something that's of interest to her. And the gift turns out to be a gold chain which Suhana longed for a while. Suhana's mom gives her a lesson that everything that glitters is not gold. What a beautiful way of teaching a kid...

During Suhana's bidaai, KK handed her an envelope. The content was very heart warming. Her mom writes how she should conduct in her sasural. http://autos-quotes.info/dm.php?id=xcyzzg_sasural-gendha-phool-16th-april-201_shortfilms. And she did not have an advantage of being raised by such a wise mother.

@ Ambrosia -
Sanjana did not remember anything about her mom at all... on the contrary Suhana remembered every detail about her mom. That makes it even more difficult on Suhana. So father tried to cheer her up with all the excessive pampering. You ,ade an excellent point; men and women are so different in their thinking.

@ dewdroppearl
You have very clear and concise thinking Appu. However, I would want to say that boys need their father in their adolescence just as much as girls need their mothers. It makes a huge difference in their personality.

I totally loved this topic Swetha. 😊

@shweta.... superb topic yaar.....i am enjoying the discussions in the forum.....

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Edited by laxmi_s - 13 years ago

@ vishmewell
Sanjana did not remember anything about her mom at all... on the contrary Suhana remembered every detail about her mom. That makes it even more difficult on Suhana. So father tried to cheer her up with all the excessive pampering. You ,ade an excellent point; men and women are so different in their thinking.


completely agree

Edited by *dewdrop~pearl* - 13 years ago