Originally posted by return_to_hades
Originally posted by *Woh Ajnabee*
Personally, I don't think I could ever hurt my parents that way. And therefore, I'd never commit to anyone without being a 100% sure that my parents would approve. If I did and opted out of the situation later, well that wouldn't be fair to either of them. On the other hand, if I well in love with someone who's parents did not approve of me, I wouldn't want him to give up his parents for me. And I would leave without compelling him to make that crucial decision. Its not fair --- to him or to parents to have to give each other up for a third person. Its not about being sacrificial, its about understanding and respecting the bond between a parent and a child. You have to look at the situation from both sides ... it isn't easy for either party involved.
See but won't that be unfair to him. You have taken a crucial personal life choice away from him and are making the decision for him. You could actually end up tearing the family even more apart - because he could end up blaming them for his loss. Sometimes parents do warm up and accept everything after all is said and done.
Sometimes walking away may be the best decision, but it should not be the hard and fast option. And I think the person you love should be allowed to have a say - for its their life too.
Perhaps, I'd be making the decision for him, but with his best interest in mind. As cheesy as this sounds, I'd wait for him and for his parents. What good is love if it doesn't come with a little sacrifice? I think some time away from him would also help him realize what he really wants. In the end, either way, if we were meant to be ... we will be.
As far as parents warming up and accepting everything after all is said and done goes, they don't have a choice at that point. If he marries me against their wishes, they'd have no choice but to accept me ... it is not a matter of warming up at that point, it comes down to whether or not they want their son to stay or leave.
Obviously walking away does not entail a quiet Bollywood exit which would compel him to search any and all airports/train stations/taxis for me.
It would be a well thought-out and thoroughly discussed decision. It wouldn't be fair for me to walk out either because at this point, its not just about you.