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Posted: 28 April 2010 at 6:49pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by karandel_2008

We dont have any choice or any say in getting born. Neither do we have any say or much choice to die.

At least, let us choose our partner with whom we will spend perhaps our 40-50 yrs of life. Its not parents life, but its our life thus we should have a final say - either by agreeing or by disagreeing.
And if your parents don't approve of the relationship, you will forget them?

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leaving you parents for you love doesn't mean that you don't love your parents................that is a very big insult to all those people that have been a situation like this and in the situation for all the right reason. I am not talking about parents objecting to your love because they are drug and alcohol addicts, or the family is horribly mean, or he is a cheater that had previous horrible relationships or so forth. I am talking about when you bring a person home that is a great human being, why should he or she be rejected??? Only reason being that the cast is different....or status! As I said, its really hard to judge this situation because there are a lot of other factors related to the final judgement. Its just not that simple, there is no simple answer either. Its like asking a person do you want your left hand cut off or your right hand cut off. You have to weigh the reason y your parents are objecting, make them understand and then make your final choice. I don't believe that one should just say "bye" mom and dad, since you can't agree I am leaving. NO it doesn't work that way. But don't say that a person that does chooses to leave for their love is a bad child and has forgotten all the scarifices that parents make for their children. You can't forget that you also made lots of promises and built a trust with that other person and its not that easy to just let go. If I could I would just leave both so I wouldn't be unfair  to any.

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Posted: 28 April 2010 at 7:28pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by debayon

Originally posted by karandel_2008

We dont have any choice or any say in getting born. Neither do we have any say or much choice to die.

At least, let us choose our partner with whom we will spend perhaps our 40-50 yrs of life. Its not parents life, but its our life thus we should have a final say - either by agreeing or by disagreeing.
And if your parents don't approve of the relationship, you will forget them?


I will not forget them I will ask them to accept me as I am and thus rather will ask them to not forget me.

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Originally posted by Gauri_3

Which love?  The first love or the subsequent ones after that? 

Please specify LOL


First tell us how many times you've been in love. Tongue And not the jhoota-moota love, the real suchi-waali mohabbat. LOL

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Originally posted by Mister.K.


My second point, of course, needs further elaboration so here goes the analysis on how to arrive at a decision after recognizing that you are smart:

  • younger than 20? don't take a decision yet. don't take sides. let parents have their say. let the love of your life have his/her say. concentrate on education and focus on having a good career.
  • younger than 30 and older than 20? don't take a decision yet but think maturely. evaluate who is right and who is wrong. tabulate your evaluations. come up with a weighted system and closely monitor which side (parent  / love of your life) is winning or losing. keep your eyes and ears open. don't let any one party influence you too much. be your own master.
  • younger than 40 and older than 30? it's time to take a decision. you must have a fairly good idea by now as to what is going on and who are the "good guys" and who are the "bad guys". who is making you choose one over the other? why are they forcing you to choose? what are the reasons behind their agenda? what did you learn so far? can one survive without you? can you survive without one of them? did it really boil down to one over the other or are you misreading something? flip a coin if you are unsure and if everything is so evenly matched.
  • older than 40 and undecided? you probably are not that smart. go back to my original quote.



So pretty much if you're 20, 30, or 40 etc, you're screwed, right? Tongue

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