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Poll Question: Do you leave parents for LOVE

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return_to_hades

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There are a lot of people who have answered no in this poll. I want to address those people who say they would not leave their parents for love.

How have you or do you plan to go around this?
Is the game plan to never fall in love, to never acknowledge love or to just ditch love when push comes to shove?
If the plan is to ditch love, how do you reconcile your ethical stance of not hurting parents vs not using/abandoning people?
If the plan is never to fall in love or never acknowledge love, how do you plan on doing that? How do you ignore or suppress natural human emotions, honest feelings that you may develop for someone? What do you do when you start falling for someone of feel that you want to be with someone?

Not trying to say that one should not listen to parents or anything like that. Simply trying to make people think things through. Make sure that no matter what answer it be its carefully weighed out. I myself have not responded to the poll for as of this moment in life, I cannot say either or.

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Originally posted by PhoeniXof_Hades

That's one of the hardest challenge one has to face on his life. Leaving your parents for your love would mean you will be bothered by what is going on with your parents till the rest of your life, and if anything wrong ever happens to your parents (say they die out of natural cause) you will [still] blame yourself for it. Life will become a living hell with guilt eating you up.

Now, if you choose your parents/family over your love, you will have to live with the burden that you not only destroyed your life, but also the life of the person whom you loved. On that way, you shatter and destroy the person, break the trust he had not only on you but also on the rest of the humanity. He may not be able to fall in love again.

Either way, you will be the looser. It's a very, very difficult decision. Right now I can say  that I'd choose my family over my love, but I don't think I'll be saying it after I truly and actually fall in love. Disapprove
 
You are exactly correct , those last lines say it all. I can speak from experience, its the hardest choice you will ever make in life. But its just not about leaving parents or leaving your love, a lot of other things are part of situations like these. For example, why are the parents saying no, cast reason, religion, or status, here they would be wrong. Or are the thinking for your best because the person you love isn't the best of human beings, in this case you would be wrong. I think its also important to see who is right. Its not fair if you just leave your love just  because your parents don't think he is up to their status or religion or cast. The most important part should be that he/she is a good human being. I was in the same situation, I tried my hardest to explain and make them understand, but it didn't work. After almost two years of pain and arguments, I took  the step that I didn't want to take because I knew my parents were wrong. It ended on a happy note, but I still blame my self for putting them through that, even though I truly tired to make it work. But on the other hand, I would have never been able to move on with life had I listened to my parents, because he is the best husband and friend. So its not that easy to answer. Until your really not in that situation, you will not understand. Its easier said then done. Hopefully no one has to be in that situation, but if you are I would just do what your gut and heart  tells you and leave rest to god. No one can guarantee that you will have a happy married life, not you , not your parents, not the person you love. They only one that can is God, so leave it up to him.


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Hmm, your parents who have given you unconditional love and have given birth to you, endured pain, suffering, hunger and sometimes even humiliation for you, have shown you the right path vs. your lover, who has given you support for a limited time only, has not necessarily done anything to make you really indebted to that person, the only thing is the mental and physical attraction. Unless you're of the DDLJ type, I don't think anyone in their sane minds would even thing of such a thing.

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Originally posted by Mister.K.


If you don't know whether you are smart or dumb, talk to me. I will do the evaluation.


I would like my free mental sanity evaluation to see what I should do in regards to love.

Also a free evaluation on wifey too and my probability of convincing her to elope. LOL


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We dont have any choice or any say in getting born. Neither do we have any say or much choice to die.

At least, let us choose our partner with whom we will spend perhaps our 40-50 yrs of life. Its not parents life, but its our life thus we should have a final say - either by agreeing or by disagreeing.

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