Originally posted by PhoeniXof_Hades
That's one of the hardest challenge one has to face on his life. Leaving your parents for your love would mean you will be bothered by what is going on with your parents till the rest of your life, and if anything wrong ever happens to your parents (say they die out of natural cause) you will [still] blame yourself for it. Life will become a living hell with guilt eating you up.
Now, if you choose your parents/family over your love, you will have to live with the burden that you not only destroyed your life, but also the life of the person whom you loved. On that way, you shatter and destroy the person, break the trust he had not only on you but also on the rest of the humanity. He may not be able to fall in love again.Either way, you will be the looser. It's a very, very difficult decision. Right now I can say that I'd choose my family over my love, but I don't think I'll be saying it after I truly and actually fall in love.
You are exactly correct , those last lines say it all. I can speak from experience, its the hardest choice you will ever make in life. But its just not about leaving parents or leaving your love, a lot of other things are part of situations like these. For example, why are the parents saying no, cast reason, religion, or status, here they would be wrong. Or are the thinking for your best because the person you love isn't the best of human beings, in this case you would be wrong. I think its also important to see who is right. Its not fair if you just leave your love just because your parents don't think he is up to their status or religion or cast. The most important part should be that he/she is a good human being. I was in the same situation, I tried my hardest to explain and make them understand, but it didn't work. After almost two years of pain and arguments, I took the step that I didn't want to take because I knew my parents were wrong. It ended on a happy note, but I still blame my self for putting them through that, even though I truly tired to make it work. But on the other hand, I would have never been able to move on with life had I listened to my parents, because he is the best husband and friend. So its not that easy to answer. Until your really not in that situation, you will not understand. Its easier said then done. Hopefully no one has to be in that situation, but if you are I would just do what your gut and heart tells you and leave rest to god. No one can guarantee that you will have a happy married life, not you , not your parents, not the person you love. They only one that can is God, so leave it up to him.
Edited by taral83 - 28 April 2010 at 3:20pm