Originally posted by return_to_hades
Originally posted by PhoeniXof_Hades
I think Lalita was talking about loving more than one person at the same time. At least that's what I got from her post ("couple wise"). Many people prefer and can live successfully in a poly amorous relation, though personally I find that weird and unrealistic.
But Sneha was not talking about more than one person at a time - but about the ability to fall in love again in life.
Right! I was talking about the ability to fall in love over and over again in life, and the importance of each of them. Is it really right to say that only your first love is your "true" love?
Personally, I think No. I have always been a very firm believer in love, and I just know, that I couldn't marry someone before falling in love with him before. But that does not stop me from saying, that I also do not think we have only ONE true love. What's beautiful about human beings is that they do not simply mate, but feel in the process as well. And we've got a big heart, no seriously
, which allows us to fall in love again even if the mind does not permit it. Personally, I've always thought the heart does not work without the mind anyway, and since it's a combination of both, anything's possible!
What I never got around understanding, is why people put it in their heads that you can't fall in love over again once you've lost a former love. I agree true love is very rare to find, it would be, but foolishness to qualify any and every crush as true love, but that doesn't mean you can't find true love twice or thrice even. I've seen it happen to lucky people who were willing to give themselves a chance over again! Life is not a Hindi movie after all, first love isn't always THE only love.
About a poly-amorous relationship, I agree Labib, I also find it pretty weird and non-fulfilling as Sarina put it. I happen to think that you gain much more from one person at a time, rather than 4 persons from whom none you really love.