Originally posted by: Ice-Thinker
@return to hades: The glasses of ignorance is one thing, and the rope of value is another. Holding on to the rope of value is very important. "When in Rome do as the Romans do" is not always the best quote. Would you participate in throwing stones on a woman declared guilty by a sovereign countries legal system? .. just because that is the way the people of that country lead their life?
There are always those GOOD things that can be accepted into ones life from that other country ... and those BAD things which your own country taught you, you can clean it out... and vice versa. The education of GOOD vs. BAD therefore become a very big neccessity for humans. Otherwise, again, its an anarchy. WONDER IF YOU TOOK THE TIME TO READ THE POST I POSTED PREVIOUSLY TO THIS, GIVING SOME INPUT OVER YOUR THOUGHTS ... 😊
I am sorry about interrupting the wonderful conversation, I just read this and thought about adding my two-piece. Not just because it is directed to Sarina, but because I myself was in conflict with what you've just stated above.
First things first. What is the "rope of value" to you? And does it equate to the values of your neighbor? To that of the inhabitants of the neighboring country to yours? To that of those living on the other side of the globe? Just because your family and religion have set up a system of culture and values, doesn't give them the status of being "right", at least in every which way. I'd agree with Sarina, family values are VERY important, they shape your identity after all, perhaps in many cases, your personality too, but your integrity? I highly doubt it. I can live up to what my religion asks me, but that does not mean I have to view the world and worldly happenings in each and every way stated by my holy book or prophet.
Secondly, you're contradicting yourself according to me. That woman must not be thrown stones at when we visit the country, yet everyone must conform to one set of principles made up by someone? Fair enough deal I must say. Someone who chooses to have a bachelor party as he wishes to does not do it just because the "rest" have it that way, similarly to have someone like me would choose a get-together not because my friends would do it that way too. I do believe it comes down to personal choice. You cannot expect to set up rules in free democratic countries about how bachelor parties must, or must not be done, lest it includes strippers, alcohol or whatever that follows.
Thirdly, to educate people on Good v/s Bad, I think we must ourselves be sure of the "good" and then of the "bad". The concept that all these habits come from the West is outdated, and highly ridiculous if you ask me. I've always been labeled, back home in India, as someone who's been born and brought up in "foreign". Yet, of the numerous times I visited India, all distant relatives who came to visit said they wished they had preserved their culture as we do over here. It's a WRONG assumption that when you're out of India, you let go of the "so-called" values and traditions that are supposedly set in the Indian society. I am 18, and I am still not allowed to step out of the house alone after 8 unless special reasons, and I am aware of tens of cases, some being my own cousins, who live in India and go out partying late, without restriction. It's cool to label people when you're not part of the lot. But reality, in often many cases, is something else.
Again, so that you do not get me wrong. I am not a follower of alcoholic drinks nor of strippers, nor do I ever felt the need to promote them, no matter in what society or culture. But that does not stop me from saying that I do not mind people making their own choices, whether that involves stripping and consuming alcohol. Also, as Sarina very well put it, it's always been really easy to judge people on their habits. Mind you, habits and actions are NOT the same. I think she's clearly explained how people may seem all to religious and abiding to rules and be rotten people, whilst others may be a bit carefree and having small vices but prove to be excellent human beings. Labeling someone as "bad", because he or she chooses his/her way of partying, is not something I'd do at least.
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