Need an advice

Hi All,

I need an advice from you all since I am not able to figure out what to do and I needed an unbiased opinion.

I was in a long distance relationship with this guy in London. I met him through his brother who was my friend. We started as friends and later realized we want to be more than friends. Were together for about 2.5 years, I wanted to marry him and I talked to him about it. He always used to say we shouldn't rush it and give ourselves more time. I was 25 when our relationship started and my parents were already looking potential guys for marriage, I told my parents about him and they wanted to talk to his parents. I told him what my parents wanted, but he felt he was being rushed and forced to do something he wasn't ready to do. We went on a break for some time then got back together again.  I went to see him in London and we had the conversation about marriage and he said he will talk to his parents.  Everything was fine, but when I came back to US that guy stopped calling and answering my calls. This happened in June, 2 months later he called me saying that his family wants him to concentrate on his career first and establish himself before getting married.

Now whenever we had a conversation about marriage I always maintained that I am not rushed to get married but at least get engaged so that parents will stop looking for me and this way they will have understand that you are serious about me. So when he called me 2 months later and gave me this reason that his parents don't want him to get married so soon, I realized he is making excuses. We never broke up officially, but we just stopped talking to each other.

Now 7 months later I get a call from an unknown and no one talks, then I get this text message saying "sorry just wanted to hear you" and it is from this guy. I asked why and he tells me that he still thinks about me and sorry to bug me. Then he called again and we talked for a while.

I am not sure if I should have talked to him after all this, why is he contacting me now? If he wants to get back together, do you think I should give him another chance?

Thank you all for reading.

Waiting for a response.

-a girl who need your advice.

Well I think you should talk to him to the point now. Before, he was making excuses, not lets see what he says. Tell him directly that your parents are looking for a suitable match for you and they are not going to wait that long. And you need a strong reason, so that you can take a stand for him.,

the guy sounds dodgy,. hang up on him and block him. You deserve someone who respects your wishes and will give you real quality time and no excuses/ if he really loves u then u couldve at least got engaged, u guys are in ur mid 20's or late..and he still aint sure, thats retarded/

give him the cold shoulder, and if he bugs u say talk to ur parents or theres no future for us and leave me alone.

Originally posted by: P1nk

the guy sounds dodgy,. hang up on him and block him. You deserve someone who respects your wishes and will give you real quality time and no excuses/ if he really loves u then u couldve at least got engaged, u guys are in ur mid 20's or late..and he still aint sure, thats retarded/

give him the cold shoulder, and if he bugs u say talk to ur parents or theres no future for us and leave me alone.

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i agree with P1nk... ignore him. 7 months is a long time...if he was serious about u he would have talked to u before.
 

I agree with p1nk!

well i don't think he really likes you, why would he be scared of comittment n make excuses?..some guys have issues with marriage..but when u told him the reason he should have agreed to it..

You know what you should do, if u think he is the right guy for you wait for him till you die but he should also do the same... and i think this guy is not interested in you anymore, long distance relationships arent good at all, they tend to break very easily... hook up with someone who cares for you... and who loves you... not ignores you!

If you want to take my advice, do so. If you dont want to, listen to your brain because your heart cant leave him...

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