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Posted: 17 March 2010 at 11:02am | IP Logged
Originally posted by -Pinky-

wait...isn't it illegal to find out the gender of the baby before delivery in india??
 
 No one follows the legalities in India especially not in places as Punjab. I do believe however, that they have put a ban on sonograms recently.
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Posted: 17 March 2010 at 11:04am | IP Logged
Originally posted by punjabi_qt26

It's just soo sad that parents JUST WANT BOYS ( most that have a indian mentality) ! i have someone in my family who has 3 daughters. but, she wont stop til she has a boy because she wants to make her family happy. they also just want a boy because they think that you just marry off daughters and that their will be no one to carry on their name without a boy in the family. it makes me sad to think that this still goes on even after, girls have made such efforts to stand up and become equal to men.
 
One of my relatives delievered a boy during her 5th pregnancy. She was pregnant 4 times before with girls, they aborted 2 and gave birth to 2. The whole family is now over the moon with the boy. It's a bit sick actually.
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Posted: 03 April 2010 at 12:48pm | IP Logged
Its disgusting really. People think that when their daughter will grow up, she'll bring shame to the family because one mistake from the daughter and the whole family will be maligned. Its the same if the son does so. But people don't think about sons like that because they think their more important. What is up with that? Sons can go on making mistakes-they will support us ahead in life and if a girl makes a mistake-you just ruined everything for us. What had we done to deserve a daughter? Like huh? What is wrong with society. Its high time people wake up and realize that everything has changed and it's not 1845 or whatever. Its 2010 for crying out loud!
I live in Canada and i'v met and known so many punjabi families that are doing horrible things just to have a boy. Im sick of this and just hope the new generation has a bit more sense than our parents and grandparents. 
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Edited by Angad-Kripa#1 - 03 April 2010 at 12:53pm
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Its just soo sad to have read some of the replies here and to see the extent some people would go to get a boy... i hve read through all the comments and to see the number of abortions or treatments people go through... i am no different... me and my family live in england.. so me and my siblings have been brought up with a british way of thinking things... my mum begs to differ... recently a bua of mine gave birth to her second baby girl in italy and the look on my mum's face when she got the news.. i gave her a good long lecture lol!! the generations of our parents and grandparents arn't even satisfied with one boy. My aunt a couple years ago had a baby boy as her first born and she had a sweet little angel the second time and some of our relatives when they found out were like tsk tsk.. apalling or what... atleast spare the little girl.. you've already got your boy.. and this is in england as well... and people based abroad call themselves modern..

to be frank the mentalities of some people arn't gonna change even if you put em on the moon!!! lolz... enough talk about the negaetive side.. not all parents are like this... my dad is one of them... m 18 now n he tells me that he was happy when my mum had me and he was like thats it.. no more kids... :D but my grandparents... same old story... so now there are us two sisters and then the little brat of the younger brother.. hehe... i love him to bits but just he mentalities of some people.... i can proudly say that my dad loves me and my sister more than my brother.. well.. he has my mother to that job.. doesn't he... hehe.... ahh... great topic sim di... cheers all.. rav...x

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Posted: 25 April 2010 at 5:55pm | IP Logged
i think this holds true for many sikh families but out of all the families i know and even in my family, this does not occur. most of my mom's friends only have sons and they wish to have a daughter. one of my mom's friends had two sons and was expecting again. she really wished for a daughter and was actually a little dissapointed at recieving another son. i think where the family is situated makes a difference in child preference. in punjab, parents need sons to tend the fields and animals. here in new york, this isnt needed. daughers around the world are making their parents proud. while some r joining the navy, others are moving forward in becoming doctors and engineers.

edit: now that i go back and read these replies, i take my words back. i cant believe that ppl at this day and age still feel like this about having daughters. im much too young to even think about having children but i know that whatever gender child i have, i will accept it wholeheartedly. a girl can never be "parayi" for her family because in the time of need, she's the strongest pillar in the family.


Edited by aangelis - 25 April 2010 at 6:52pm

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