Originally posted by Nishani
I am Hindu and my boyfriend is Tamil.....we are getting
married next year (well, feverishly thinking about it anyways).
He wants me to marry him in the traditional Tamil way but after
that I am gonna revert back to being Hindu....I am just being
courteous. I love him too much to hurt him so I sacrificed my pride to
make him a happy man.
I always said I would NEVER get married to a bloke outside my
religion and look what happened to me.....now I know the real meaning
of NEVER SAY NEVER!
We are both not overly religious people so it does not make a
difference to us. I will still practice being a Hindu but I will NEVER
convert for him.....he knows that and accepts it.....for which I am
It is just on the marriage day, I will do things his way. Aren't I nice?
I am doing this cos I love him so and if he does not for one moment
appreciate it, then I am gonna take my nephew's cricket bat and whack
him upside the head!
It took a lot for me to settle on having a traditional Tamil wedding.
Sorry for the long epic story.....didn't mean to bore you guys with my reply!
But Nishani , Tamilians are hindu too !!! Infact strict Hindu's
mostly .And you can't convert to Tamilianisn , as there isn't such
religon ......unless he's a Tamilian Christian .......then you are
talking about converting to Christainity not Tamilianism( since as far
as i know there isn't a word as Tamilinism....since thats not a
religon....but should i say a caste)
And the Tamilian wedding will be done in a hindu style .....just
different bunch of rituals . You could always learn to speak Tamil ,
cook , understand how to do pooja's and do both . I am half Sikh - half
Bong( Hindu)......married to a Bong .My parents were more hindu than
benagalis( meaning didn't do anything bengalis do) But I learnt the
customs my in - laws
have (Bengali customs) once i married and i practise them too . You
will remain a hindu
even after you learn Tamil etc !
Nice to hear about your relationship !! All the best sweetie !!
Edited by indygirl - 24 November 2005 at 9:43am