finally i get a chance to reply to your post...believe it or not...lol I've been pretty angry these days...so this might get a bit senti...or maybe not :P
My point is that why does temper and revenge always make us lose sight of reason, logic and sensitivity? What comes over us that we forget the difference between right and wrong? Why do we find it so difficult to forgive and give ourselves and the other person another chance? Why do we behave like a boomerang who wants to cause hurt because we are hurt? Why anger drives us to our immature and insensitive worst? Even the best of people show fleeting colours of demons when they are stung......
why do we let the anger get the better of us...because that is our first reaction. We get angry without realizing that it is not going to make the situation any better but really worse...
I know when I get angry...I don't yell...cus I am not that sort of person...so instead...I start crying...and writing...that's the best way I can calm myself down. But I know others who hurt themselves...and the one they love in anger.
When I was young...one of the adults..I can't remember who...used to tell me whenever I fought with anyone (I had loads of fights...lol cus people called me fat :P)...that whenever you fight with somebody...you both get hurt...the only one who is happy is the devil...he is standing right beside both of you...clapping his hands and laughing at you all.
I still remember that for some reason...and whenever I get angry I remind myself of that...why should I give a chance to someone to laugh at me.
People say that drinking is the root of all problems...but I think it's anger...once you get angry...you lose control over yourself and the situation. You become really weak...being angry and accusing someone...or taking revenge is not a sign of being strong...but being angry.
I think the best solution for anger is to take few deep breaths...and then proceed the conversation in a calmly manner...I know it is hard to do but it is not impossible.
lol I still have to follow my own advice...because crying doesn't help either!