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Working Moms - The Social Implications

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    WORKING MOMS........ARE THERE REALLY ANY SOCIAL IMPLICATIONS?

      Working moms have both been critisized and hailed in modern society. It seems grossly unfair that a women should have to compromise on her career because she has the capability of bearing children. however  many leading socialogists and doctors argue that lack of countinuous maternal influence in early years make children insecure and the social bonding amongst a family falls apart. is there really such a thing...what about quality of time vs quantity of time....what are the implications of working women for her kids, her family, her married life, her career and most importantly for herself...??? what so you think...??

LET THE DISCUSSION BEGIN.....

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Posted: 02 February 2005 at 12:00pm | IP Logged
there is nothing wrong with a working woman. if you notice this world is basicaly run by women. Their input is always needed and i'm sure if you take a survey those women who work can assist their c/ren well cuz they are exposed to the happenings in society.
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I respect working women, they juggle everything, housework, kids, careers. I think that women and men are both responsible for bringing up a child and so it should not automatically be decided that the women has to give up more time than the man when the child is young. I  beleive that both parents should spend as much time as possible with their children when they need support in their early stages, not just the mother. Overall i think that women can handle work and children.

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Wow I probably could write a debate on this...

I think kids do need the parents attention very much in the warly years to bond and it does not mean that you can save time as they grow...it gets more challenging for any parent as kids grow with all the things they learn and focus. Parents have to be their for them to guide them and teach them good, play with them, be their friend, help them develop their skills and what not...

But it does not mean that moms should not work. It needs lots of dedication and organization for that part. Lots of compromises and adjustments for both husband and wife...

It is ideal when you get the support from dad's and if mom's have flexibility in their work like they can work early hours and come early and dad's can start late and come back late...then their would be always a coverage...but then what happens to the family time...so it is nice if the kid is sent to a day care or baby sitter for some time may be few hours a day that way...all of them get to spend some good time together. This time is all precious and should be just used for family bonding time...play games, having outing together or watch somthing fun together....

Well all this is really great to think and it is tough to implement. With my personal experience...I know that...I don't give the 100% I want to give to my family...that is because my body gets all week by the end of the day and I try to play and spend as much time I can...and then I feel I should have done better. It requires me compromising and sacrificing some things...which are hard to do...but moms always are working...

So basically I think, mom's could do what they feel comfortable with...that is either work and then spend good quality time with their kids...which means compromises and sacrifice. Or mom's could be full time mom's which means they will have financial crunch, so have to be careful spending and then mom's also need some time for them selves so they have to do something creative to keep them motivated. May be take up a part time job or some social service that way they feel contended and satisfied and their energy level is up.

 

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Posted: 04 February 2005 at 12:22am | IP Logged
i have a working mom and i have no problem with it Big smile
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Posted: 04 February 2005 at 2:15am | IP Logged
I had a working mom, and I'm scarred for life
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Posted: 04 February 2005 at 7:36am | IP Logged
I agree w/ u Smisha!

Yes mom's should work but there needs to be a balance between work and home life. I think in this day and age it's very crucial that parents spend the maxiumum time w/ their children because society is changing and kids are getting exposed to good and bad things at a very young age. But also in these times it is very crucial for a women to work. We are living amidst a soceity where women are working and holding very high-level jobs. It's very important that we women have to stand up on our own and fulfill our career dreams!

In my opinion, there needs to be balance. For example the wife and husband can work amongst their schedules , as smisha said. By the time kids come from preschool or school either of the parent has to be home. May be mom can come home early one day and dad can come home early some other day. In the morning's mom or dad can work their schedules out and one of them can stay home until the child goes to school. The basic principle is that either parent has to be home by the time the child is home so that they don't feel alone or left out! And no matter how the parents schedules are they need to spend some valuable time w/ kids; Such as going to their school to give surprise visits, not missing any of their school functions ! In my opinion working mom's can be effective parents and spend quality time w/ their parents. A great example is my cousin brother. Both him and his wife are doctors and they have a 4 year old boy. Both of them work around their schedules. She stays home in the morning until he goes to school and my cousin comes home by the time his school ends. Once they come home they spend the most amount of time possible w/ him. He is growing out fine!

It's possible for a women to work and be an effective parent! For working mom's to be effective parents it needs understanding and sacrifces between parents. I guess afterall being a mom is an amazing thing that it does need lot of work and sacrificesSmile
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Posted: 04 February 2005 at 7:39am | IP Logged
Originally posted by bas02

I respect working women, they juggle everything, housework, kids, careers. I think that women and men are both responsible for bringing up a child and so it should not automatically be decided that the women has to give up more time than the man when the child is young. I  beleive that both parents should spend as much time as possible with their children when they need support in their early stages, not just the mother. Overall i think that women can handle work and children.



Thatz soo tru
I have a wurkin mom too
Everythinz fine wif meh...Big smile

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