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Hi guys,
I was sitting in meetings in office - missed the episode ( so, i save you all from my posts ki maar today and maybe tomorrow as well) and when I came to the forum, my favourite freak Shruti Fruity gave me a cardiac arrest with the new promo.
I am going to have a general discussion here and no, I am not going to talk here about just these fictional characters or how Riddz should be with Armaan or how Sid and Riddz are being forced or emotionally blackmailed into this marriage . No , it is NOT about DMG. It is a societal discussion.
This post is about how we as a society have not changed - how nobody believes a man and a woman when they say nothing happened between them - how the society is a gold medalist in distributing gold medals and character certificates. And how this 'fear' of the typical 'Log Kya Kahenge' and 'Tumse shaadi kaun karega' attitude suffocates half the young generation even when they have not done anything.
Riddhima and Sid already have a shady impression of something brewing between them , thanks to that tamaasha of the photographs that happened in front of the whole hospital. Sid tried to explain but Keerti said that it would not change anything - the damage was done.
And then that damned body heat incident which resulted in Riddhima believing that Sid had slept with her....
The judgmental idiot that she is - she screamed in front of everyone - every single staffer of Sanjivani that Sid had apparently 'Raped' her ( somebody spank this woman.).....in front of her father who listens to her horrified .... and so does the whole world.
So , the typical conservative society that we are - there and then , a character certificate must have been given to both Sid and Riddhima.
I don't know what triggers what but in the promo , we see a broken Shanky asking Riddhima to marry Siddhant. .....
Forget even thinking about it , these two people are not on even civil terms because of Riddhima's prejudiced hatred and Sid's reticent silence.
The decision is WRONG and will only make life worse for both Sid and Riddz. Life has been such a whiirlwind for them ever since they have met each-other that they have never had the chance to even think of what is between them. Riddhima is madly in love with Armaan and Sid , recovering from Tammz' heartbreak is in the middle of nowhere.
Now.......let's talk about it.
Like numerous Ekta and non-Ekta shows , this show is also a reflection of how water-tight the minds of our society are.
Shanky knows that he is putting both Sid and Riddz's life at stake but he is still asking them to get married. Because a father knows that once a daughter's honour is lost and that too as badly as Riddhima's because of her stupid stupid stupid outburst , it is not coming back. Nobody will look at Riddhima in the same way as before - she is pristine but nobody will believe that. Family's honour will also fade . As a father , the first question that comes into his mind is - who will marry my daughter? Who will respect her?......
No... these thoughts are not inborn.... our stone age society drives all this nonsense into their heads. Don't we see all this crap around us all the freakin' time ?
- Uski shaadi toot gayee, ab usse kaun shaadi karega?
- She has had three affairs. Which decent man will marry her?
- You have to retain family honour. Don't tell your husband about your past love life! 😡
The fact is that a woman's honour is as sensitive as a lamp flame that simply needs to be fed by the oil of approval from the society. Nobody is going to believe women if they say they did nothing standing next to a man. We live in that world , where if a girl talks to a boy in Block A ......everybody in Block Z will know about it and aunties and uncles will instantly get down to the task of giving character certificates.
Women have it really hard. Seriously. Sometimes you think whether it is a crime that you are a woman.
If this was a real life situation, even if Sid -Riddz screamed from the rooftops that nothing happened between them , nobody would believe them and they would forever be labeled a ' Shameful Liaison'. It is the same - from a rural village to Colaba in Mumbai and Greater Kailash in Delhi.
A man and woman are looked in just one way in certain societies and we are a part of it.
So many times, we hear of rape cases being withdrawn because the rapist agrees to marry the victim. So many times, we come to know of rushed marriages done for the sake of a girl's honour and it is a crime to be a woman whose engagement has broken and even worse if she is divorced.
Shanky is acting no different. He is thinking of Riddhima's future like a typical father who wonders 'Meri beti ka kya hoga' .
Riddhima and Siddhant have done nothing that they need to be ashamed of , but amidst those bitching swords and giggles, nobody is going to listen to their voices..... not even Shashank.
Gauri-Pratham in Kutumb, Kajal-Arjun in KDMH , Kanwaljeet-Shraddha Nigam in Waaris, the lead couple in Colors' forthcoming 'Aise na karo Vida' , Sumit-Kumkum in Kumkum , Amitabh-Jaya in Silsila...... they all got married in the name of HONOUR , reflecting that no matter how much we progress and evolve.... we will forever belong in the stone age where a man is needed to cover a woman's body and protect her honour - her innocence notwithstanding.
In the serial, it is a very typical but unexpected twist. But in real life it is very typical and expected solution when a sword hangs over your head only because you are a woman and your honour is at stake. Humph.
I was sitting in meetings in office - missed the episode ( so, i save you all from my posts ki maar today and maybe tomorrow as well) and when I came to the forum, my favourite freak Shruti Fruity gave me a cardiac arrest with the new promo.
I am going to have a general discussion here and no, I am not going to talk here about just these fictional characters or how Riddz should be with Armaan or how Sid and Riddz are being forced or emotionally blackmailed into this marriage . No , it is NOT about DMG. It is a societal discussion.
This post is about how we as a society have not changed - how nobody believes a man and a woman when they say nothing happened between them - how the society is a gold medalist in distributing gold medals and character certificates. And how this 'fear' of the typical 'Log Kya Kahenge' and 'Tumse shaadi kaun karega' attitude suffocates half the young generation even when they have not done anything.
Riddhima and Sid already have a shady impression of something brewing between them , thanks to that tamaasha of the photographs that happened in front of the whole hospital. Sid tried to explain but Keerti said that it would not change anything - the damage was done.
And then that damned body heat incident which resulted in Riddhima believing that Sid had slept with her....
The judgmental idiot that she is - she screamed in front of everyone - every single staffer of Sanjivani that Sid had apparently 'Raped' her ( somebody spank this woman.).....in front of her father who listens to her horrified .... and so does the whole world.
So , the typical conservative society that we are - there and then , a character certificate must have been given to both Sid and Riddhima.
I don't know what triggers what but in the promo , we see a broken Shanky asking Riddhima to marry Siddhant. .....
Forget even thinking about it , these two people are not on even civil terms because of Riddhima's prejudiced hatred and Sid's reticent silence.
The decision is WRONG and will only make life worse for both Sid and Riddz. Life has been such a whiirlwind for them ever since they have met each-other that they have never had the chance to even think of what is between them. Riddhima is madly in love with Armaan and Sid , recovering from Tammz' heartbreak is in the middle of nowhere.
Now.......let's talk about it.
Like numerous Ekta and non-Ekta shows , this show is also a reflection of how water-tight the minds of our society are.
Shanky knows that he is putting both Sid and Riddz's life at stake but he is still asking them to get married. Because a father knows that once a daughter's honour is lost and that too as badly as Riddhima's because of her stupid stupid stupid outburst , it is not coming back. Nobody will look at Riddhima in the same way as before - she is pristine but nobody will believe that. Family's honour will also fade . As a father , the first question that comes into his mind is - who will marry my daughter? Who will respect her?......
No... these thoughts are not inborn.... our stone age society drives all this nonsense into their heads. Don't we see all this crap around us all the freakin' time ?
- Uski shaadi toot gayee, ab usse kaun shaadi karega?
- She has had three affairs. Which decent man will marry her?
- You have to retain family honour. Don't tell your husband about your past love life! 😡
The fact is that a woman's honour is as sensitive as a lamp flame that simply needs to be fed by the oil of approval from the society. Nobody is going to believe women if they say they did nothing standing next to a man. We live in that world , where if a girl talks to a boy in Block A ......everybody in Block Z will know about it and aunties and uncles will instantly get down to the task of giving character certificates.
Women have it really hard. Seriously. Sometimes you think whether it is a crime that you are a woman.
If this was a real life situation, even if Sid -Riddz screamed from the rooftops that nothing happened between them , nobody would believe them and they would forever be labeled a ' Shameful Liaison'. It is the same - from a rural village to Colaba in Mumbai and Greater Kailash in Delhi.
A man and woman are looked in just one way in certain societies and we are a part of it.
So many times, we hear of rape cases being withdrawn because the rapist agrees to marry the victim. So many times, we come to know of rushed marriages done for the sake of a girl's honour and it is a crime to be a woman whose engagement has broken and even worse if she is divorced.
Shanky is acting no different. He is thinking of Riddhima's future like a typical father who wonders 'Meri beti ka kya hoga' .
Riddhima and Siddhant have done nothing that they need to be ashamed of , but amidst those bitching swords and giggles, nobody is going to listen to their voices..... not even Shashank.
Gauri-Pratham in Kutumb, Kajal-Arjun in KDMH , Kanwaljeet-Shraddha Nigam in Waaris, the lead couple in Colors' forthcoming 'Aise na karo Vida' , Sumit-Kumkum in Kumkum , Amitabh-Jaya in Silsila...... they all got married in the name of HONOUR , reflecting that no matter how much we progress and evolve.... we will forever belong in the stone age where a man is needed to cover a woman's body and protect her honour - her innocence notwithstanding.
In the serial, it is a very typical but unexpected twist. But in real life it is very typical and expected solution when a sword hangs over your head only because you are a woman and your honour is at stake. Humph.
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