Posted: 28 January 2010 at 6:47pm | IP Logged
Ok, ek besharm ladki ne meri izzat is forum mein mitti mein milane ki koshish ki... ab kehne ke liye bacha hi kya hai?
Bee, you are the only true friend left in this forum. Thanks for not playing Misti's game.
Rajsri, I am very disappointed in you. I will put it down to a temporary insanity from the company you kept today - Misti's! I was not around to keep that balance! I had pinned my hopes on you for being the wise one in my absence. Chalo maaf kar diya!
Misti, a very appropriate poem for todays' episode.
I am having problems with couple parts of today's episode so I have watched it partially so far!
Having said that, this is the first thread of the day for me so I am not aware of the general feeling in the forum. For me the jury is still out on Rads. She is still struggling with her inner demons. On one hand she is aware that she is helping her sister who is despised in both families and by her husband. They may have reasons for abandoning Vish but Rads has every reason to be grateful to her for allowing her to marry Dev in spite of Amma's unforgiveable act.
Another reason may be the one mentioned by all here - that she does not want Dev to see her maykaa's mess. I don't think there is anything left to hide, but ok I will go along.
But the bigger reason is she is a savior by nature and does it with good intentions. Dev is impulsive and he may say something in front of people like Mrin - it is none of their business - and she has mostly fought battles single-handedly, and she will give it her all now too, and does not want to be disrespectful to Dev if he goes public with this.
Dev on the other hand is not stupid. He knows and has likely guessed what she is up to but is allowing her the freedom to make her choices, something she has never had. An incident comes to mind when Rads calls Dev in the middle of the night to make an appeal to him to see for herself that Vish means what she says about divorcing Dev and requests him to take her to Mumbai. She walks into the VN house and Amma is abusing her verbally and on the verge of physical, accusing her of chhinning her poti's haq and celebrating in the middle of the night with daamaad babu. Rads stands there silently, infuriating Amma even more. We think Dev has left but he walks in and tells Amma that she will not tell you but I will tell you why she called me to VN and explains her stance on Vish to Amma who suddenly backs down. Dev UNDERSTANDS that she will act without explanation even when abused. He understands her silence - not to be disrespectful (she even calls the servants "aap"). What he may not understand is her obsession with helping Vish, because he as yet does not know how Vish reversed Amma's bride swap plot!
In VN Dev did the same thing and trusted her need to go out (looking for Vikram) without an explanation. He accepts the fact she would rather not reveal than lie and that is enough for him. Dev is allowing her to absorb the fact that she will not be punished like she was in VN household and that he will win her trust and she will eventually abandon her silence. This is her trauma and he may be trying to heal with excessive love that we are all infuriated watching! It is the same silence that will get her knee-deep in doo-doo! How else can they get the story forward?
I thing still nags me - Rads did not have to surreptitiously put the phone under the shawl and pretend kitchen work. Half a truth is still a lie! Other than that, I think Rads is mostly strong and loyal or she would have jumped in Jamunaji out of desperation a long time ago! And she knows has Kaanha on her side because her intentions are good.
Misti, go ahead and say Gardes ki Jai Ho!
Bee, go ahead and disagree with some of my points!
Rajsri, go get an aasan and sit at my feet, with hands joined in namaskaar!