Originally posted by: Nandalala
Renu, u bring up a very interesting topic...I think the present track on the show has highlighted a few key issues when it comes to sanskaars & the double standards regarding them even within a family...
On the one hand, we have robotic, "sanskaari" Akshara who is trying to follow the mentals' dictates to a T, but stumbles from time to time (going to her mayka, supporting a romance, albeit her own s-i-l's, putting too much mirchi in the food); on the other hand, u have her husband, who was brought up by a supposedly "sanskaari" bahu, Gma...this is a man, not a boy now, who is impetuous, impulsive, has to have everything his way...he values traditions-'parampara' when it is ok by him; he respects others when it is convenient for him...who, in the recent weeks, has berated his own wife not only in front of his own immediate family, but extended family as well. For being from such a "sanskaari" family, is munna a shining example of how sanskaars are passed on from one generation to the next? Is this something to be proud of? Is this a pat on the back for the so- called "sanskaari" bahu who raised this man?
I think the Maheshwaris have a much better handle on sanskaars & practicing the same...does the fact that Varsha does not wear a pallu, make her less sanskaari? Does Shaurya's suggesting he take Varsha out for a movie make him less sanskaari? Of course not. It just goes to show that while sanskaars are an essential part of our culture, having certain freedoms like going to u r mayka, or not wearing a pallu, or being educated, does not change one's values, one's upbringing...
In fact, as YR has shown us, families like the mental Singhanias will always have to contend with rebellion from generation to generation because their expectations r too unrealistic & there is no latitude for living within the modern times. Case in point here is Nandini. As Nishi mentioned, she was completely aware of her family's views on illicit romance & relationships yet she did not stop herself or warn Akshara about the consequences of her moving forward with Mohit. In my view, this is a form of rebellion on Nandini's part. Had she had the freedom to talk openly to anyone in her family with who she was supposedly so close to (Gma being the closest confidant to her), she could have told them about her feelings. Instead, she clung to the newcomer in the family, who was as helpless as she was in this situation.
There has to be a happy medium between traditions, values & morals within the context of society at large. This is absolutely true for the bahu who will one day have her children & bring up those children to carry on the family name & impart "sanskaars" to them. In my opinion, Gma has failed in this regard, both when it comes to herself & her son...I would be embarrassed if my son behaved the way Naitik did with his own wife, FOR ANY REASON. Her supporting Naitik & turning her back on Akshara just goes to show that even as an elder, the very essence of being "sanskaari"- of having values, of being honest, of being respectful-is only in words, not in deed...practicing what u preach is dead here!
well said anji....👏....very very valid point.......about Gma's sanskaars.....
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