Cousin Love/Mairrages - Page 6

Originally posted by: Aparna_BD

You see in certain religons and communities like Muslims and Parsis , Mormons(and others that try and keep a pure blood line ) it is acceptable so there is not much of an issue .

 But say in Hindus , Christians and Sikhs and most other communities it isn't for many reasons . First and foremost it is considered as incest as they are your siblings . Secondly for medical reasons. Thats why the debate !

let me quote a third reason...to prevent unscrouplous cousins from taking advantage to innocents under the pretense of love. everything that has been quoted in favour of such marraige , can equally be quoted for a marital relationship between siblings and even parents and kids(in fact this form of relationship was quite prevelant in societies with pure bloodline ideologies like ancient egypt or where it was hard to find a suitable mate like a few southamerican and african tribes).but soon it became a way of keeping property in the family and sexual corruption. father would eye his preetiest daughter from birth and attempt to marry her once she was eligible(in most societies the age was 13 years).certain queens in rome are believed to enter in such relationships with thier sons to keep the reins of kingdoms to themselves.the young  girls/boys  on the other hand were too innocent to be able to differentiate between love and parental love and were easily fooled with the surge of emotions the felt

Originally posted by: pj04

let me quote a third reason...to prevent unscrouplous cousins from taking advantage to innocents under the pretense of love. everything that has been quoted in favour of such marraige , can equally be quoted for a marital relationship between siblings and even parents and kids(in fact this form of relationship was quite prevelant in societies with pure bloodline ideologies like ancient egypt or where it was hard to find a suitable mate like a few southamerican and african tribes).but soon it became a way of keeping property in the family and sexual corruption. father would eye his preetiest daughter from birth and attempt to marry her once she was eligible(in most societies the age was 13 years).certain queens in rome are believed to enter in such relationships with thier sons to keep the reins of kingdoms to themselves.the young  girls/boys  on the other hand were too innocent to be able to differentiate between love and parental love and were easily fooled with the surge of emotions the felt

This reminds me of the "Oedipius complex" and "Elektra complex"  !! This is a phenomenon when a child feels sexually attracted to his parent of the opposite sex . As he grows older he learns to repress such feelings and realise his relationship with his parent .
Same goes for the attraction a Cousin feels towards another , or towards a sibling . It does happen . But its considered to be right to supress such feelings and not fan them.

These feelings are explained by Psycologists as "Genetic sexual attraction". It is said that when two adults genetically related meet and are NOT aware of the relationship are very likely to feel sexual attraction .It could be in a adoption case the birth mother with her son , or biological sibling with his other sibling. It is said that it happens as much as 50% of such re- union cases !

http://www.guardian.co.uk/weekend/story/0,3605,956454,00.htm l

Reunions were characterised by so-called "mirroring" - the shock of familiarity and self-recognition on first meeting. Even where there is little physical resemblance, the emergence of shared interests, similar traits, mannerisms and instincts, often subtly transmitted through sense rather than verbal communication, tended to have a profound impact on one or both relatives. Greenberg says that many used the terms "finding a soulmate" and "like looking in the mirror for the first time". Body odour, too, held an especially powerful attraction: there was, says Greenberg, frequent fascination with a relative's characteristic smell - acknowledged to be a potent factor in both human and animal attraction - as well as the feel of their skin and the sound of their voice. "The sudden, overwhelming sense of falling in love, a profound need for unusual closeness and intimacy, was almost universal.
Edited by Aparna_BD - 18 years ago