phew..not a bad response n having brushed thru various replies, I desire to say;
- Angie lost her mind (as someone said)- yes, she did when she first slept with Brad when he was married to someone else. Brad too lost his mind then...so does everyone who indulges in infidelity coz its that 'chemical locha' of the 'bheja' which makes one indulge in it.
- someone talked of Angie's rants when she found out of Brad's giving massage to Nanny. Probably that was the initial reaction!...she correcected herself later, when better sense prevailed.
- Infidelity is 'all about Jism' - really?? I think its the final step taken by a man or a woman(out of marriage) when he/she gets to know the other person, takes a step further in getting involved and the final logical step by getting physical.
- someone said to end a marriage than cheat - is it that easy?? For those married, will know. Those who think its so easy to end a marriage, get married to know.
- remark on get brain checked(those who say or indulge in infidelity) - is same as Angie losing her brain. Infidelity is not an easy step one takes. It is culmination of a long process of missing out on something errupting in the 'chemical locha in brain'.
- fantasize in bed rather than getting emotionally attached - if one comes to think of literal sense of cheating, then both amount to tantalism. Getting physical is giving a shape to tantalism.
- character flaws for those who advocate/indulge in infidelity - the discussion here was acceptance of infidelity by married partners. When Angie said this, she must have weighed all the pros n cons of acceptance of infidelity.
- Infidelity is a crime - with the average age of teens indulging in relationships/sexual relationships reducing by the year, it augurs a startling telltale of what is in store ahead. Infidelity is common amongst Indians. Its just that out of heavy burden of social pressures, culture, religious pressures, one fails to accpet it openly.
Infidelity is defined as "marital disloyalty and breach of trust ". To this extent and recollecting what Angie said, if both partners are open to eachothers relationship outside of marriage, where is the mistrust, adultery. There was time when divorce was uncommon in India as compared to West but now we have it as an accepted norm in India.
Infidelity is an end result of a long process of adjustments, acceptances, compromises out of an existing marriage. No body would want to indulge in infidelity just for the heck of it, unless of course, one seeks sex by paying.
Hester Prynne was a young woman married to much older man, who sent her away to Boston( if I am not mistaken) to finish his affairs. I dont need to say any more on this..its self-explanatory.
Do not forget, behind every infidel Man, there is always a(nother) woman ...and vice-versa!!
True, the thought process of Indians are still orthodox...but as it changed towards divorce, it will/may change towards infidelity, in times to come. We already see it in serials, movies and is comparitively more open in metros than in towns.
Infidelity comes from Infidel and please look up the meaning of 'Infidel' in dictionary.
Does it mean that a person who has indulged in infidelity cannot follow any religion?? Does he become an 'untouchable again'??
An after-thot : I seem to have added enof fuel to fire ;)
Edited by baddie - 14 years ago
