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I think that the "real" education, including the moral education, of kids is very important. Society advances in steps from one generation to the next. Current generation can be called as too old to change.

If our generation is doing something bad and if we teach the right things to kids, we will see that next generation will have improved. On the other hand, if the next generation repeats the same mistakes then there will be no improvement.

Regarding dual earner families: If parents can finish work early and come home at 6:00-7:00 PM then there will be a lot of time to take care of kids.

Also I think that some countries already give holidays on 1-2 extra days per week for moms, apart from Saturdays and Sundays. I think that it is good.



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some solutions:1) where possible have elderly family members live with you . They wud provide good emotional & cultural support for the kids. 2) Good creche facilities that also take care of kids studies & HW 3) Take regular breaks to spend quality time with family eg go for outings or holidays or just b at home .4) Dont get too obsessed with ur job or career. Strike a healthy balance.

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I do not think dual income families are for the money or selfish personal career goals. Although, additional income and career aspirations of women is a part of the shift from traditional male breadwinner family, there is more to the changing phenomenon. Its about balancing the roles of husband and wife in a family, two people working together to fulfill each others dreams and goals.

Women too have their own dreams. They want to be independent and achieve their goals. They too want the feeling of being able to provide income and support for their family. At the same time men too do want to be more involved with family. They do like being more involved with their kids, spending more time with them, and doing chores around the house. The only problem to dual earner families is the rigid mindset that only men ought to be breadwinners and women ought to run the house.

Every family has two aspects needed to nourish it. One is the monetary aspect of earning money and supporting it. The other is internally by running the house and emotionally connecting the members. Both husband and wives can share these two roles to their best preference, and the marriage will be more fulfilling. Two people committed to making things work can share these roles well and give enough attention to family. When there is no sharing the family may sustain, but there is disconnect.

There are many reasons for divorce. Dual income families that end up in divorce is not so because of both spouses working, but because one or both was not mature enough to share the roles or stuck in negative rigid mindsets. Similarly there are many reasons for children being neglected or feeling left out. When that happens in dual income families, it is not because both spouses are working, it is because one or both spouses is not mature enough to maintain balance.

No divorce does not mean that the family is happy or everything is ok. In traditional male breadwinner families, many children often feel the father is uninterested or too emotionally detached from their lives or does not care. Wives begin to feel distant and ignored by husbands. The marriage sustains only for social obligations or helplessness. So not being divorced does not really indicate towards the success of the marriage.


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Originally posted by return_to_hades



There are many reasons for divorce. Dual income families that end up in divorce is not so because of both spouses working, but because one or both was not mature enough to share the roles or stuck in negative rigid mindsets. Similarly there are many reasons for children being neglected or feeling left out. When that happens in dual income families, it is not because both spouses are working, it is because one or both spouses is not mature enough to maintain balance.

No divorce does not mean that the family is happy or everything is ok. In traditional male breadwinner families, many children often feel the father is uninterested or too emotionally detached from their lives or does not care. Wives begin to feel distant and ignored by husbands. The marriage sustains only for social obligations or helplessness. So not being divorced does not really indicate towards the success of the marriage.




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career may not B all that life is about but I feel that life is all about living it fully without having regrets for things not done. If one has to give up ones career against ones will then that is something one will always regret or miss . There will be lot of ."what ifs .." in that case. Its better to have a choice & see if one can handle both home & career & then decide for one own self.

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We will be making a great mistake if we judge India through its 4 metropolitan cities. India is much bigger than that... and actually, the true power which runs India lays beyond those places. A reason also for which I would say that India is still far from China when it comes to development. Infact.... India is yet to really take itself to the stage of better developing nations. Our farmers still suicide... our children are still street urchins (in Delhi even!)... Our slums are some of the biggest in the world. Our water, electricity and other facilities are very miserable yet.





True, I second that! The actual worry is, even the greatest achievers in India need not only recognize this fact, but how to take advantage of it. Unless India emerges from all its poverty and overpopulation issues, I don't think it's going to help whether the GDP growth is in high figures like 8% or 11%.  They need to get in front and confront these, however hard the first few steps would be. Again though, the problem is, if they start now, they'll have to put too much labor force, capital and time in this, which obviously, going by the looks, won't be possible. I think the real root of the problem lies right there. It's not the problem that's too big ---> It's the solutions that are impossible to even start off at the first instance! Ouch

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