Originally posted by return_to_hades
Speaking of Desi Videsi relationships.
I think people will and should go for what they are comfortable with. There is no real definition of perfect girl or guy desi or videsi. It all boils down to whom you connect with and find familiarity with. Someone who is a recent immigrant or someone who takes time to adapt will need someone more familiar with home. Someone who has been here for a while or is slow to adapt will have a wider comfort zone. Sometimes Videsi guys and girls can have a lot more desi in them.
People should stop trying to view the world as Desi Videsi and see people for who they are and the qualities they exemplify.
That being said I thing time and growth also plays a role. When I was younger my mind was more malleable and I was open to a lot more ideas. However, as you grow older the its not just fun or getting along you seek or mere familairity and connections you seek, there is something deeper you seek in a relationship that cannot be expressed in words. In my late teens early twenties I would have done with gora, kala, desi videsi. Now whoever, it is I need them to understand why is it that I melt over Shahrukh and why running through the flowers is so much fun and why we desis do all the little silly little desi things we do.
The day mothers start looking this
in their daughter-in-laws, let me know...
Definitely though, the situation is shaping up, seemingly for a good tomorrow. I think it is more the effect of more and better multi-cultural societies. People are becoming more liberal and willing to open themselves to other forms of ethnicity. Why a few weeks back only I had a cousin who got engaged to a Chinese girl and everyone "seemed" delighted. His parents are totally in for it. I think we are getting good in most parts of the world, and at least for now on, it seems fine.
Exactly! That is still why, perhaps somewhere deep down, I still hope for a guy who's Indian at heart. Not because I have any problem with another one, but because he needs to understand why I'd go and watch SRK crazily in the theater for each of his movies however crap the storyline is...