Posted: 11 November 2009 at 8:54pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by sneha0601
Originally posted by gumsum
Sorry to say but this is the most absurd logic you mention in your post to favor polygamy. Some people believe in complex ideas and complex solutions to life's simple problems\needs, polygamy may be the best fit for them. To answer the question in your post "Why marry?" I would say that it is an individual choice. For me marriage is important. Each relationship in my opinion requires efforts- it requires love, affection. honest, trust and many other things. To state it in simple terms, to build a strong relationship, both the parties should be fully invested in it and that is what marriage stands for. But if someone is just looking for some fun time then they do not need to marry.
I can go to great lengths to argue on each o your points but I do not feel like. In any case I am not a good debater.
I know you are hinting directly at RTH
, therefore sorry to interrupt, but my one question is:
@Bolded: You say that right? Because I know about 3 couples who have a live-in relationship since years, one of them its been nearly 7 years now, and in no way, did I see the love decreasing, the honesty changing, the affection becoming rare, or the trust disappearing... And they do not have just fun, they share responsibilities, share their lives, share their passions, wants, share their sorrows and difficulties! It was just their mutual decision never to get married AND never to have children! So basically, I don't believe that it's marriage only that could bring all these in a relationship... After all, since when has any relationship depended on vows or legal contracts or paper hassles?
I personally am for marriage, and will always be! Will post my views tomorrow... But the only question that intrigues me, and actually that I find interesting is: How does one define marriage at the end? Is it the vows or the papers only? Can't two people be married even without all those? Why does marriage come under the legal aspect? Can't two people believe they are married even if they aren't under official terms?
I totally get it. Marriage is just another name for commitment. the couples you know are wonderful people with great values in my opinion. No relationships aren't (shouldn't be) bound by papers or vows but each relationship needs enough chance before calling it off. Unfortunately majority of people do not have enough self control to be committed to a realtionship without a contract and some just needs that security before they get into one. For them marriage exists. For others its just in their minds but it is there in some form.
I quoted marriage instead of trust and commitment because the post was about polygamy.