Originally posted by: return_to_hades
Why is monogamy so emphasized in our society?
Souro answered this part brilliantly. Human beings are inherently possessive and tend to be jealous. Monogamy takes care of thi inherent nature.
Why are relationships evaluated in perceptions of love, commitment and long term sustainability?
Who evaluates the relationships? The partners in a relationship themselves bring this misery on them - they have this constant need to justify them staying in the relationship. Others are too busy either evaluating their own relationships or trying to hook up with someone in order to start a relationship.
Society was not always monogamous. In fact in ancient times polyandrous relationships were prevalent amidst all global cultures. Why have we made that switch to monogamy? Is monogamy really for the better of society?
I think polygamous relationships were far more common than polyandrous relationship in ancient times. The reason for prevalent polygamy was the life style - too many battles and wars were fought all over the world. This resulted in more men dying than women. Hence, women not only outnumbered men but given the reproduction process of humans, it was hard to wait full nine months to get one heir. Hence, men married multiple women so that they can procreate more. Polygamy made sense in those days.
One issue with polyandry was that it did not address replacing lost lives in the battle fields AND it made the situation worst in a society which already had women outnumbering the men. Then there were issues establishing the parentage of the child.
As society changed, became more civilized and fought less, the disparity between men-to-women ratio also disappeared and the need to procreate more also went away. Hence, monogamy replaced polygamy as it made more sense with the changing times.
Whether monogamy is really better for the society or not will make an interesting debate. I hope you can keep this thread alive till Monday so that I can take part in that debate too.
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