Originally posted by Meena1Funny.. We were just discussing the Louisiana case in my class yesterday....the justice needs to be removed..
Inter-racial marriage is still a taboo in my famiily.. i dont think my mom would ever be able to accept me if I ever marry a black guy..
Haha I would absolutely hate to see my mom's face if I ever bring a black guy home. But not just a black guy, any guy outside my race or religion. See when I look at reality tv shows and see how India is changing with the inter-racial and different religion marriages, I think wow. But then i go back to that same country in a year or two only to find that nothing is changed and it's as taboo yesterday, as it is today and probably will be tomorrow.
You still hear the same ol' people badmouthing other cultures. Just recently a relative attented an inter-racial marriage of an Indian guy to an American girl in California. The mother was hell bent on finding an Indian girl for her son but it didn't work out, and just through looking at the pictures, you could tell that she wasn't able to enjoy her own son's wedding. But hey, that's the way it is right?
I dunno, you're right when you say marriage is all about compromose/sacrifice but I would never want to compromise on my culture or religion, or family for that matter but we can work round pretty much everything else. So I suppose it depends from person to person as to what you look for in someone and what you're prepared to give up for your marriage. I've seen both ends of it, the one's that work and the one's that don't so it's hard to generalise but yes, atleast in Indian culture it is still taboo. In our culture forget inter-racial marriages or getting married within the same religion, people want a guy/girl from the same caste/community. I think this is definitely more prevalent with gujjus and some punjabis. Me and a gujju friend of mine were having a discussion the other day and he was explaining to me the system of 'ghams', and interestingly someone asked him, what would your parents say if you bought a patel home lol and his response was that his dad would probably disown him. =|
In the UK, I find it's not as big of a deal with the Indians to marry someone as long as they are of the same religion or speak the same language, but as soon as it is outside the religion or inter-racial, the WHOLE society frowns upon it.
One of my distant relatives married outside the religion and 8 years after her marriage, her parents still haven't spoken a word to her and every time there is a community gathering, people never fail to bring it up and have a long discussion about how shes just ruined her whole life.
I know that cos of the way my extended family have brought me up, in a cultural way, the thought of inter-racial marriage would never cross my mind. I think there's too much to lose and it's probably not gonna be worth it.