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Posted: 17 October 2009 at 10:12am | IP Logged
Originally posted by return_to_hades

Originally posted by mahikhan

Originally posted by Meena1

Funny.. We were just discussing the Louisiana case in my class yesterday..LOLLOL..the justice needs to be removed.. Ermm

Inter-racial marriage is still a taboo in my famiily.. i dont think my mom would ever be able to accept me if I ever marry a black guy.. LOLLOLLOL
LOL no mum would ever agree to let her daughter marry a black guy no matter what...i can bear a person with ok looks BUT black no wayEmbarrassedOuch

 
What if the black man is a really good man. A well settled caring family type of man.

And I mean who would say no to Will Smith, Denzel Washington?
Well thats what i mentioned earlier that my kid is too young for me to imagine such situation BUT yes if a black person happen to be a well settled person then why not.


Edited by Mahi_Way - 27 March 2010 at 1:55am

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Posted: 17 October 2009 at 10:19am | IP Logged
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You made some good points, and I applaud you for this well thought out replyClap, but I cannot agree with you. Sorry, just my opinion.Smile

My aim is to not make anyone agree with me. Marriage is a very personal choice and everyone has the right to marry people they deem suitable and influence their family to follow such choices. Marriage always should be within ones comfort zone, or else it may not work. Comfort zones vary by people.

But honestly - do you think you have a right to be against such a marriage if two people  of different backgrounds agree to such an alliance? Should a judge or anyone have the right to deny them their choice?

 
It's interesting though that you have a multi-cultural family. Must be fun at times as well, especially during the holidays of all the religions.Wink
Basically we are Hindus, but being Bombayites we say we just need an excuse to celebrate. Most of the different cultures are in extended family. I'm looking to my white cousins marriage next year to an Easter European girl.

Are your parents both Konkani Brahmins?

My dads side is Konkani Brahmin. My mom is Gujarati. I joke - I am half Hindu, Half GoodJew (Gujju) I was raised Konkani Brahmin.

With all that I am 100% heathen.

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Posted: 17 October 2009 at 11:04am | IP Logged
i dont think inter racial or religious marriage is wrong but it is much more convenient to marry someone from ur own culture and religion. esp wen you have children. i this day and age children already have to so identity issues and questions about who they are, think having parents of two different religions and cultures would make it alot harder for them to be stable and understand themselves.  in all, its alot easier for everyone to marry into within their own culture n religion but thats about it.
 
its not rly a question of right or wrong, its jus convenient.

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Posted: 17 October 2009 at 11:06am | IP Logged
Originally posted by PhoeniXof_Hades

Originally posted by mahikhan

Firstly i'm never against my daughter liking anyone since it's their life they should be given right to choose their life partner so if she'll have no problem then i wont oppose either but she is too young for me tothink how exactly i'd react at that time.



Why, then, did you say that no mother will ever permit her daughter on marrying a full Black, when you yourself feel you can (as a mother) agree with your daughter's choice for a husband?


Most people from the sub-continent don't like the looks of black people, not even Will Smith or Denzel Washington. Moreover, they're viewed more as an unciviized group, maybe because the Africans are always engaged in some bloody civil war or are dying of famine and the well off blacks act strange in some really outlandish clothes.
Obviously most moms won't want to see such a SIL.



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Posted: 17 October 2009 at 11:27am | IP Logged
Originally posted by PhoeniXof_Hades

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Most people from the sub-continent don't like the looks of black people, not even Will Smith or Denzel Washington. Moreover, they're viewed more as an unciviized group, maybe because the Africans are always engaged in some bloody civil war or are dying of famine and the well off blacks act strange in some really outlandish clothes.
Obviously most moms won't want to see such a SIL.



You missed my point. I haven't asked for a reason as to why most mothers would not like to have a Black man as a son-in-law. My question was to Mahi, who previously stated thart it is literally impossible for any mother to permit her daughter in getting married with a Black guy, and on the next post, she stated she wouldn't mind it even in the least as to who her daughter chooses for marriage. I was a little confused, as the two statements are not just contradictory, but polar-opposite.

If NO mother can ever agree with her daughter marrying a Black, then suffice it to say Mahi can never be a mother.Wink (Oh lord, I can see a thousand spears coming my wayLOL).
Or else, the assumption that NO mothers will ever agree with her daughter marrying a Black men is faulty.

Being rare does not mean being nonexistent.

Accepting what one's child chooses doesn't really mean that the parent is comfortable with the choice. They're accepting it because their child can make that choice and there is nothing that parents can do to stop it. If it was possible maybe they'd have tried to influence their child's decision.
Choosing something for the child is just a reflection of the parent's own choice, and obviously if they don't like it they won't be comfortable with their child choosing that.

And I think she was just speaking in general about the attitude of desis towards blacks. It's not about counting how many desis love blacks and how many don't. Mostly they don't like blacks.


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