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Posted: 17 October 2009 at 8:12am | IP Logged

With the increase in greater exposure, globalisation and mixing around inter-racial marriages for NRIs is going to be very common. So parents just have to be mentally prepared for such happenings.

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Posted: 17 October 2009 at 8:24am | IP Logged
Originally posted by mahikhan

Originally posted by Meena1

Funny.. We were just discussing the Louisiana case in my class yesterday..LOLLOL..the justice needs to be removed.. Ermm

Inter-racial marriage is still a taboo in my famiily.. i dont think my mom would ever be able to accept me if I ever marry a black guy.. LOLLOLLOL
LOL no mum would ever agree to let her daughter marry a black guy no matter what...i can bear a person with ok looks BUT black no wayEmbarrassedOuch
 
You too?Embarrassed

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Posted: 17 October 2009 at 8:26am | IP Logged
Originally posted by return_to_hades

Marriage is always a compromise. Two people will always have different backgrounds that they cherish and want to instill in their children. They will always have to mutually discuss on how they want to raise their children. When we add different religions, races, nationalities we make the backgrounds diverse and wider. Heck I have seen conflicts are when every bit of cultural and religious background is the same but they have differing political opinions or different class levels. Ultimately, it completely depends on the two individuals and their families on how many stark differences they feel they can compromise with.

 

I think when two people choose to marry despite being of different race, religion, nationality ' they know they are entering into a compromise. One or both in the couple have already set their mind to forgo aspects of their background in order to make the relationship work. From my personal observations multiracial or multireligious children, do not face as much problems due to parents ' but more due to other people in the family or society in general that tries to pull them in different directions.

 

For example biracial children express consistency in cultural messages instilled by their parents, but might be rejected by peers because they are not white enough, black enough, Asian enough etc.  Children raised in bireligious households are able to reconcile faith differences ' but families or society makes them feel that their reconciliation is out of place. Parents raising kids may not care about cultural aspects, but in-laws tend to compete on which aspects to focus on.  Of course there is a risk of falling out and divorce due to irreconcilable differences. However, that is a choice two people and their families have to make.

 

Culture is not static. Throughout history culture has changed and evolved, it will continue to do so. As the information age makes the world smaller, cultures are already influencing each other and intermingling. It's the way the world was designed ' to keep evolving. My family in general is Hindu Konkani Brahmin, but I have uncles and cousins who are Chinese, German, American and family/extended family includes Gujarati, Punjabi, Sikh, Muslim, Catholic ' the whole shebang. Of course there are confusions and conflicts and growing pains ' but every one of us is well adjusted. We all have strong personal identities. White looking people, Chinese looking people, Indian looking people ' all one happy family. We consider that our family is a culture on its own.

 

Its actually the best thing when cultures come together. It's like when we make potstickers when friends get together. They are Asian. We'll make a batch of Kosher ones for the Jew, who gets to be an honorary Asian just because Israel happens to be in Asia. If I am feeling religulous, there will be a batch of beef free ones. And then of course the normal ones for the real Asian.

 

I think one can be against interracial/interreligious/intercaste marriages personally and avoid them. I think people can also expect to influence their immediate family to follow suit. People have the right to try and preserve their own culture. However, in general I do not think anyone has the right to oppose such marriages in society. It's a personal choice between two people. Conflicts for children is just a poor excuse to be prejudicial and prevent other people trying to overcome their difference. If we really cared about children's future how about requiring parents to have a certain IQ level or preventing skanks, addicts etc from having kids. Its not like Octuplet mom or the Gosselin's are model parents. On the other hand Obama, Jennifer Beals, Tiger Woods etc turned out perfectly fine. So are Shahrukhs kids and other mutts out there.

 

Funny thing is how so many people encourage marriage within the same race, nationality, religion, caste, class etc but not same gender. LOL

 
You made some good points, and I applaud you for this well thought out replyClap, but I cannot agree with you. Sorry, just my opinion.Smile
 
It's interesting though that you have a multi-cultural family. Must be fun at times as well, especially during the holidays of all the religions.Wink Are your parents both Konkani Brahmins?

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Posted: 17 October 2009 at 8:50am | IP Logged
Originally posted by _LalithaJanaki_

Originally posted by mahikhan

Originally posted by Meena1

Funny.. We were just discussing the Louisiana case in my class yesterday..LOLLOL..the justice needs to be removed.. Ermm

Inter-racial marriage is still a taboo in my famiily.. i dont think my mom would ever be able to accept me if I ever marry a black guy.. LOLLOLLOL
LOL no mum would ever agree to let her daughter marry a black guy no matter what...i can bear a person with ok looks BUT black no wayEmbarrassedOuch
 
You too?Embarrassed
LOL it's not that i hate them but i have seen black people from US armed forces attacking Iraq so every black remind me of them..thats whyOuchplus yea if your gal can have better choices then why not them?Embarrassed

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Posted: 17 October 2009 at 9:04am | IP Logged

Firstly i'm never against my daughter liking anyone since it's their life they should be given right to choose their life partner so if she'll have no problem then i wont oppose either but she is too young for me tothink how exactly i'd react at that time.



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Posted: 17 October 2009 at 10:06am | IP Logged
Originally posted by qwertyesque

how i wonder if i marrying a blonde would she able to make alu key parathe.rajma, puri... is that possible!!!

nah I am not sure inter-racial makes sense.....LOL


The thing is that even a desi gal might not be able to cook for the life of her. And some American desi gals only know pasta. Some non-desi people learn and prepare delicious desi food.

Ultimately marriage is about finding the right person who is compatible with you. If your needs are 100% desi then so be it. If a non-desi can fulfill that then so be it too. Smile

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Posted: 17 October 2009 at 10:08am | IP Logged
Originally posted by mahikhan

Originally posted by Meena1

Funny.. We were just discussing the Louisiana case in my class yesterday..LOLLOL..the justice needs to be removed.. Ermm

Inter-racial marriage is still a taboo in my famiily.. i dont think my mom would ever be able to accept me if I ever marry a black guy.. LOLLOLLOL
LOL no mum would ever agree to let her daughter marry a black guy no matter what...i can bear a person with ok looks BUT black no wayEmbarrassedOuch

 
What if the black man is a really good man. A well settled caring family type of man.

And I mean who would say no to Will Smith, Denzel Washington?

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