Do you believe in second chances?

Hey everyone,

If you are goin to get married to that person then you can sure give them one chance why not but if they are married you shouldn't but yea if you know it that your hubby or would be hubby is like that then sure i can forgive that and btw husband or would be husband never give any second chance..remember that...

Do you mean second chances in general or in the scenario of gf/bf?

once a cheater always a cheater..😳..

Talking in general for friends and people you might trust, not for the specific case-

i generally have low or rather realistic expectations and do realise that everyone has certain flaws, everyone commits certain mistakes and most importantly, what we see is only half the thing. So in effect, when someone betrays me, i might be very angry at him/her at that instant of realisation, but since i have this thinking deep down under, i'll surely like to see and think over ,when i am back to normal, as to what all led him/her to betray me or did he/she even betray me or not (I might have just misinterpreted)?!

Also, some people are too important to lose and you want to make sure you have a valid reason for not giving them a second chance else you'd regret it for the rest of your life !

But having said that, if i do give a second chance after knowing i have been betrayed , it would be a very skeptical second chance. A thread when cut cannot be joined without a knot !

I think we got to look at the situation. If  the person is your own family member or relative or hubby or wife you just have to keep on trying to change them unless they  really go overboard. Often we are quick to blame others so the matter has to be given due consideration. Generally I would always give them a second chance.

Second chances totally depend on the circumstance and the people involved. No one is perfect, humans are bound to get swayed by emotions and make a poor decision sometime or the other. When important people in your life hurt you, you definitely want to take time to weight the situation and determine what needs to be done. Maybe a second chance is warranted, maybe a second chance is not warranted.

Personally, I am more of a forgive and forget kind of person. I'd rather forgive someone that live a lifetime with the burden of a grudge or hard feelings. The relationship may never be the same as before, but I won't be unforgiving. And then as Shinedown says 'Sometimes goodbye is a second chance'.

Speaking of friends...I'd be very disappointed in my friends if they did not hit an my sig other. I'd start freaking out that my choice has gone down the drain. And knowing some of my friends, anyone I go out with has probably been there done that. 😆

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

Speaking of friends...I'd be very disappointed in my friends if they did not hit an my sig other. I'd start freaking out that my choice has gone down the drain. And knowing some of my friends, anyone I go out with has probably been there done that. 😆

 this part takes the cake😆

there is a old saying, heck why bother, someonce else said it far better than me

Looking at all the possibilities, may be the problem is with you and not him/her?

In which case you may want to find someone who loves you and not who you love if you are not married to him/her.

 

Of course if you are in marriage then refer to my first line and second chance is a must!

Edited by my_view - 14 years ago