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Posted: 19 September 2009 at 5:29pm | IP Logged
This is why I love this forum. What a sweet bunch of people.Heart I love reading everyone's responses to the show, and all the support for autistic kids.

If you all lived closer, yooooo betcha I would bring my son to get to know you guys. He loves being around people, as long as he gets to absorb everything from a distance.

I must confess it was a dreadful week, what with me being sick, and the poor fellow being tired at school. Just beginning to feel better. And of course, everyone loves to say, "Aaah, what if you have swine flu??!!"Pig

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Posted: 20 September 2009 at 10:55am | IP Logged
Originally posted by MahikaL

This is why I love this forum. What a sweet bunch of people.Heart I love reading everyone's responses to the show, and all the support for autistic kids.

If you all lived closer, yooooo betcha I would bring my son to get to know you guys. He loves being around people, as long as he gets to absorb everything from a distance.

I must confess it was a dreadful week, what with me being sick, and the poor fellow being tired at school. Just beginning to feel better. And of course, everyone loves to say, "Aaah, what if you have swine flu??!!"Pig

Mahika.
 
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People on this forum will always stand
By you and stretch out their eager hand
 
Here you'll find no lip sympathy
Only true words of empathy .............
 

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Posted: 20 September 2009 at 12:24pm | IP Logged
Hi Everyone,
 
Mahika, sorry for the delayed post.  We finally closed on our home here, last Tuesday, and we had a small "Gruha Pravesh" ceremony yesterday.  I was all caught up with those goings on so could not get to the computer to check up on posts.  I'm not good when it comes to changes, and moving is a really big hassle for me, even when it's to our own place!  Just the process of transferring everything, as in all the accounts and having to get a new phone number and all that is a process I truly detest!  Anyway, it should all be set by the end of the month.
 
Rish has been ok in school so far, thank God!  He had one tardy day last week since both he and I overslept and missed his bus, but that's been the only real incident so far.  He's been all excited about the move, since he absolutely HATES the apartment, and was used to having a lot of space in Texas in the backyard and his room with his won gameroom.  When we moved here, we had to put most of our stuff into storage, including a lot of his favourite toys, so he is doubly annoyed about having to live in a small space, and not having his toys around him!  So, when we showed him the new place, he went nuts just running all over, up and down and in the backyard etc.  He's just waiting till we get all his stuff out of storage, and that's ALL he's talking about now, it's driving me up the wall...  but in a good way, :) it's good to see him this happy and content about the move since changes are hard for him too!
 
Anyway, gotta run for now, a friend just called to stay she's stopping by in 10 mins., and I'm in a rotten state, no bath or anything yet Shocked!!!
 
TTYS,
Swapna

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Posted: 20 September 2009 at 3:57pm | IP Logged
Clap Congrats on the new house, Swapna!!! That is great news. Moving is an unmitigated nightmare, that's for sure. Soooo good to know Rish is thrilled with the new place.

There are always pros and cons to apartments vs houses. A lot of the Indians in the US like apartment living for the communal atmosphere which reminds them of home, other kids to play with etc. For me, I am glad we are in a house because my son is VERY loud. With his restless nature, he is always running, and wakes up very early to start his 'chakkars,' so I'm glad there are no apartment neighbours to be tormented by his thumpings and bumpings.Shocked Not to mention the screaming when he has a meltdown. When the whole building complained because of Antara's all-day screaming, I was really feeling for Aditya PLUS the neighbours! We cannot just tell my son "Stop crying," and expect him to comply. It took several weeks to teach him that he cannot go and wake up his sister whenever he feels like it.

Skep, That was a very sweet poem. You really do write very well, including updates. There is a second career in this for you!

Mahika.






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Posted: 21 September 2009 at 4:04am | IP Logged
Mahika,
 
You are so on the button when you talk about not being able to reason with our kids when they have a meltdown.  When Rish was younger, tantrums used to be a real issue with us.  He would scream and cry and kick up such a fuss when he was frustrated over something.  Of course at that stage he was really limited in his speech and so we could not even get him to tell us what was bothering him, so eventually we ended up having to just let him cry it out and expend his anger/frustration in that way.  He's never been violent or self harming in any way thank God!  After having witnessed some other kids meltdowns in his therapists office and at the clinics in TX Children's Hospital, I began thanking my stars and God that he at least just ends up having a screaming session and that's all!
 
The trick with him is to spot the triggers of something and head it off before it gets to the meltdown stage, but it took us years to be able to identify things that upset him and also to see the signs in his behaviour and head them off.  Sometimes he still has a session where nothing I say or do can console him, he just cries and cries until he's exhausted, but again thank God those days are few and far in between.
 
Take Care,
Swapna

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Posted: 21 September 2009 at 6:16pm | IP Logged
HAHA, this evening my son freaked out and started roaring because his father came bounding up the stairs and disturbed his zen state. He screeched with fright and then just kept going, and when my husband laughed, he got really mad.LOL

He has this pre-bath ritual where he has to stand at the sink and play with the water. Makes a big mess and everything, but he becomes mesmerised, breathing slows, etc, and after his meditative state was broken, my husband started calling him Vishwamitra. Which would make my husband---Menaka????Confused

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Posted: 21 September 2009 at 8:03pm | IP Logged
Hi Mahika and Swapna!
 
I can't believe I've been missing out on these posts! It's so great that you both are writing about your kids because it truly allows us to understand from a real life experience.
 
@ Swapna: Congrats on your new house!! Clap You moved from Texas? OMG....that's where I just moved to! I'm glad Rishab is adjusting and enjoying his new house! Big smile
 
@ Both, I really enjoyed reading about each of your children today because actually, I am a psychology major, and I want to go into clinical psychology for children. The books can teach me about the disorder and how to recognize it, but how the parents are feeling, only first hand experiences that you both narrate help us understand what the parent is going through.
 
Thanks a lot for providing such great insight for all of us!! It's nice to read two very positive home lives for autistic children!
 
Thanks a bunch!!
 
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Posted: 21 September 2009 at 8:53pm | IP Logged
Hey everyone,
 
Thanks for the wishes on the new house... even though I'm waiting so eagerly to move in totally, I just so completely HATE the process of it.  I'm just glad that this is fairly final move for us, at least until Risheek is totally out of high school (he's in his last year of elementary now)... it gives me a few years to breathe at least!  :)
 
Varsha, where in TX did you move to?  We used to live in Houston.  Psychology is such an interesting field, good luck to you with your studies.  Glad to hear Mahika & I are offerring you such a unique insight.  We do love this forum and the support from everyone who read and comment on our posts.
 
Take Care,
Swapna

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