Originally posted by _charu_
yaar howz it possible to read others minds? ok by looking at someone you can tell he's sad or upset or happy or confused but how can you know the reason?
Yes Charu what i meant by reading silence is somewhat like tvrocks say......
It is not required ...it comes on its own....like lemme give u an example i believe i read in one of your post that you are a mother of cute lil girl.....now when when she didn't know how to express herself in words werent you able to make out what she needs ...what she is trying to see.....ofcourse she used gestures....
But still you could make out without language.......
Now what i consider reading one's silence is reading/knowing someone what he wants or trying to say or feeling at that particular time without him actually saying it in the form of vocal language....
And i also didn't believe that it can happen but it does....if you look around i'am sure you'll get examples in your own house....your parents , your in-laws or some other couple who have spent say many years being married...don't they understand each other's unsaid things.....
I'll soon be celebrating my 8th yr of marriage and this type of khamooshi padna has just begun for me...since past say 1-2 yrs i feel i'am more able to understand /gauge the thoughts (even when he doesn't say )of my hubby more than i used to be...same for him he can sense out my unsaid thoughts.....
Now i don't know whether this comes from how long one has been married or the age factor....i think both play a role....you mature with age and that helps too...
Required or not....now that depends on the couple itself...if they speak their mind then you don't need it...but if one of them is a man/woman of few words then i think it would make it easier....but as i said this cannot be taught...it comes naturally..........
And you said this quality either it is there or it isn't .....that's not the case in arranged marriages...although you know the other person ...his likes , dislikes...but till you start living with them you don't know the small ,tiny bits of their personality which shapes their thought process...and hence help's in understanding them more........
I hope you got my point...if not i can clarify further....