Posted: 30 August 2009 at 12:11am | IP Logged
Originally posted by the_Naked_face
I dont understand the big issue of why some virtual folks hide their name in Virtual??.. i mean, at the end of day, if you reveal your name to someone..then the chances of them having to locate you is err none, slim very slim...A name is something that is personal to the individual but its shared by many. My name is rare, but their must be someone else with the same name. Shahdin. Other things that people hide that i dont understand is their place...its not like some Virtual would come flying to your city to stalk you or something.
I understand, not sharing your personal pictures ( although i have, but then i am told i should learn to be more safe and play safe and not to act like a stupid open book
Anyways, i find it easier to express myself more blunty to my online friends than offline...i have to be careful offline where i have to think twice before i speak so that others dont get the wrong impression of me, where-as in online, i am more honest than anything and more crazy than anything..For example opening marriage proposals, and saying i love you to everyone....is something i wont really do in reality
Also, people online exaggerate their obsessions and crushes or what not...like i claim to be Such a big fan of aamir and Edward ( i am) but i dont talk about them 24/7 with my offline friends..we have other important stuffs to discuss, such as who gossiped what or just discussing the same typical crap on a different day .....when your online you tend to exaggerate and talk more about people you see on screen...i bet Baz, Middy, shez etc arent such asma Shahid's and sonu's Crazy fanatics and barely mention them in their real world...cos they have more important stuffs to think about...
Being online - You exaggerate yourself, being off line - your still the same but more normal like...anyways true for me anyways....ive been told i have many sides to my personality, i am trying to figure out the answer for that!
anyways, i stated the obvious i think..what was your question Mr?
I like your approach to the internet. Its very genuine. In all honesty sometimes I think when things go wrong the internet gets an undue bad name. If people just opened up a bit and had some faith in trust it could be better. However, at the same time - you do not want to be too naive.
As you observed most people are more themselves on the internet. The lack of direct interaction and face to face contact makes people less inhibited. They will show deeper layers of their personality they will not show in real life - sometimes it is ordinary like flirtatiousness, or they maybe more funny and talkative than usual. they may feel more comfortable sharing likes and dislikes. They also use the internet as a way to express their true likes and dislikes. For example someone may love Twilight and not show it because their friends in school think its stupid - but they go to a Twilight forum and discuss the book to bits.
However, sometimes the internet unveils darker sides of personalities like abusive behavior, bullying, etc. Someone may be quite meek and submissive in real life - but may use the internet to be mean and abusive to people. Some people use the internet to play out sexual fantasies that are taboo in real life. In short there are a lot of crazies out there which one needs to be aware of. The anonymity also makes it easier for people to pretend and mess with people. I wont go into the darker stuff. On the less darker side there are people who will use your personal information to steal your identity and get loans etc.
So its always good to be prudent and display some amount of caution when interacting online. Yes you may make great friends, but don't rush it and naively give out too much info. Make sure you can actually trust them.
From my personal experience - making friends online has been a pleasant experience. Except for one person who pretended to be dying of cancer to catch my attention and another who decided to email me some *ahem* pictures because they thought I was flirting - no real neurotics or crazies.
When I was first planning to meet folks I met online, my parents were not too happy. However, after the first couple of people i met from the internet they were more receptive to the idea. Then I met three more this summer. I actually know several people from the internet in Europe. I always say someday when I go backpacking in Europe I know people in Belgium, France, England, Scotland, Ireland, Bulgaria, Slovenia, Germany, Greece, Sweden and Russia.