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i'm just curious but what indian custom do u find the most annoying or pointless? and which do u enjoy the most and why?
i think i enjoy garba the most even though i'm south indian, and the one thing i hate is karva chauth, not because its a bad custom but because u dont see the guys fasting for their wives, then why should we do it for them?..
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Yes that is not fun!!Very sad, especially for the male!
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Hey you know, I find that custome very very useful. Let me tell you why I think that way:
The Bengali weddings are normally very long; it starts from the the day before the actual wedding when the bride and the groom have a special lunch party which is the last meal at their respective homes before marriage. In the evening, a neighbour or someone who is not related by blood arranges for the food. All this normally include a lot of festivity and the bride and the grooms guarantedly do not get any sleep till very late at night.
Next day, the ceremony starts before sunrise ( around 4 in the morning)when the wud be bride and groom are fed a terrible mixture of chera ( poha) and curd ( something on the line of karva chauth sargi - only it tastes yuck but is healthy) and then the whole day they both fast; No food, only some juice and water; The marriage normally starts at night. Goes late into midnight till early morning sometimes - this part is 'kanyadaan' and then a break and dinner.Then, neither the bride nor the groom is allowed to sleep and there is a lot of joking, singing and merrymaking by both the parties (mostly young people in the marriage) that is arranged in a special hall. This is called "bashor raat" . Then comes the final part of the marriage after the day breaks - it's called Kushum diga and this is when the groom puts sindoor on the forehead and the marriage s deemed complete.
Then a whole line of ceremonies follow including aashirwaad by the bride's family to the newly wed couple and then the vidai, which is mostly in the late afternoon.
At groom's place, the bride is welcomed with arti and some other usual ceromonies which take a a lot of time which is followed by the aashirwaad by the grooms family.
So by now, it's been a whole two days of lots of ceremonies and two nights of waking by the couple. Beleive me, at this juncture, inspite of the excitement, the bride and the grrom are dead tired. This is the night of kaal ratri and and in my opinon, this one night of blissful sleep does wonders for all the rest of the ceremonies that lie ahead the next day.
The night after kaal ratri is the "suhag raat". The wedding night is actually is much better after the resting period of kaal ratri
I normally find most of teh Indian rituals useful and fun, though some superstitions drive me nuts. One of them is taking foot long gunghats which drives me nuts.
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