Originally posted by sarah112
Originally posted by _charu_
Originally posted by 5cents
ur very lucky 5 cents to be in a relationship like this......
It's been 5 years since i got married...Before marriage u can say, i was exactly like Naitik...n i had to face a lot of problems from my in laws side bec. of my attitude ....... but my husband supported me throughout.....he clearly said this to me that he can leave his family, his house for me incase i'm not able to adjust with them....but then i thought that if he has so much faith in me then i should try never let him down......
his love changed me to the extent tht even i was surprised......then i got to the stage where he could not give me that much of time and attention which i was used to.........trust me i was shattered..tht was the toughest phase of my life......but with time, i accepted it .......and diverted my mind to other things so tht i don't go into that "nobody loves me" syndrome ! with time i learnt that the more you give in a relationship the more you get....so always be willing to GIVE FIRST...don't expect tht ur husband will initiate....men normally aren't that expressive....n if after marriage ur expecting him to behave like a boyfriend then well, he'll never agree to these stupid ideas...
i didnt know u were married!
i kind of learned from u alot
but idk its hard choosing if u want love or arrange u know?
r u still having problems?
Sarah, I'm married n I have a lovely daughter too..she's 3 and half yrs old
did u learn frm me?
i'm honoured...actually it's easier said than done but i keep trying...
Sarah, it's upto you to decide whether you want love or arranged marriage......don't think the marriage is arranged or love, just think and rethink whether or not you're happy about it...u should be very sure of your decision .....if it's arranged marriage, don't hesitate in meeting him twice or thrice till u make up ur mind........In my case, I knew my marriage wud be arranged only bec. i don't trust my choice....i think my parents made the best decision for me....and i fell in love with the person who was destined for me
just like yrkkh....and because we loved each other so much before marriage, it became easy for me to adjust in the family after marriage....to change myself for the sake of the person who i loved..........Sarah, you love one person and marry one person but u have to LIVE with his family ...you end up spending more time with his family rather than him
n it was not easy for me like i said...
problems? Sarah, problems keep coming and going..what is important is tht ur bond must be strong enuf to survive all kinds of tests of destiny...i'll tell u where my marriage stands today...we love each other , it never changed after marriage, we're there for each other, we care for each other, we know each other inside out, we know each other's limitations, habits, nature.....our day starts with i love you and ends with i love you........i can say tht my husband knows me more than nyone in this world (just like my mom..i keep telling him u've taken my mom's place) , even if i don't say anything, he comes to know what's in my mind BUT we don't have time for each other...We hardly meet for 30 mins in a day.....earlier we used to talk for hours at a length, now we hardly talk for 3 mins on the phone ! after tht i'm thinking n he's thinking what more to say
but i'm living with this fact now....and yrkkh has helped me change...bec. of this serial, i'm happy and when i'm happy, i manage to keep everyone happy !
U can say tht my problem is similar to Shaurya and Varsha's problem...only difference is tht i felt it after so many yrs of my marriage and they realized it on their honeymoon itself
Edited by _charu_ - 17 April 2009 at 11:23am