Posted: 01 April 2009 at 11:13am | IP Logged
Originally posted by blairwaldorf
you never even went out on a date.
unless the girl really really really likes you, in which case she'd have told you or explicitly hinted to you, chances are she'd turn you down.
get to know her.
give it at least 9-10 months between saying ILY and proposing.
don't be insecure about telling her how you feel; i sense you are rather insecure since you want her to either love+marry you or cut everything off completely.
loads of times girls just want guys to make the first move because they expect them to.
She is in the US and will get back in sometime. I'm based out of India as well but have interests in India and travel quite often. She has pressure of getting married at home already but surely wont until 2010. Btw, I have enough cues from her to understand there is definitely something goin on between us. Tell out, I've been chatting with her for more than 2 hours a day for few months now and have helped her in her work(btw, she detests use and throw people). No I'm not insecure and will surely let ma feelings known and one of the princples I live by in life is never cutt off anything completely in life and that includes my enemies. Its a bit complicated than proposing here because her family is into astrology compatibility and all. My family is into it as well...caste and religion is not a problem since we are the same. What her ideal match described by her parents perfectly fits the bill and I'm sure my parents are perfectly qualified. Im not sure how to go about it. Her parents and my parents are our each other's best friends. Normally I would just ILU and say why I love her and all. But here time is running out, it needs to be approved by her parents, need to be astrologically compatible and all. And I for one will do anything to keep her image,respect in soceity irrespective of whether it works our or not.
My gut feeling says that I should tell her that ILH more than anyting and would like to take it to the next level immediately with her parents and my parents approval, and any other shortcomings. I'm certain she will be unable to date without a commitment because of soceity.
Does this approach sound ok guys?