Okay So I am in my first year of high school
and well I am not a very social person...I am quite shy
and well not very self-confident. So since i am in high school i decided
i should try to talk to people, make new friends. from my middle school only two of my friends
from my middle school (who i am close with) came to my high school (the rest are all VERY Smart and in special high schools)
So yeah I made some friends, but not really good friends, one of my best friends from my old school is in my school too buh i have no classes with her and she doesnt like joining clubs
So i made a good friend lets call her Alice (dats not her real name but i like the name Alice
so Alice is a good friend and all except she gets mad really fast and at stupid stuff.
Theres this club we both joined and it ends at 3:30 and then we proceed to a more amusing club.
So i didnt want to go to the first club, and I knew she would blackmail me into going anyways so I didnt say anything. So anyways we have last period class togeatehr, so i was waiting outside the door for her and looking at some paper... when she comes and smacks me on the head (Which i find annoying and have asked her to STOP numerous times)
So I say :
"I AM OFFENDED THAT YOU HIT ME ON THE HEAD I am not Going to go to the first club"
"Well i dont care if you lose some points" ( we get points for every club where in)
and well okay I didnt want her to think I was lying (even though i said that in a jokish way)
so I stayed in the library until 3:30 and then proceeded to the other club, in which she didnt talk to me at all
the next day when we had a class togeather she started talking to me (but in a "whatever" way
and well she is way more social than me, so i can really start feeling lonely, (and she does a good job making someone feel lonely)
so our fight went on
and the next day in math we were talking she was still in her "whatever" mode and she told me she was still angry at me
and apparently she hadnt taken me seriously when i said i wasnt going to the club and i had "ditched" her.
and she was angry ccause i hadnt appoligized, so i did the "responsible" thing and said sorry,
and we were friends adn it was okay
so when she was talking all watever(BEFORE WE MADE UP), i asked her if she was going to these morning meetings we were go to (i dun go anymore, cause its in da morning and i live far from da school and i have 2 wake up extra early...and my cousin who drops me off hates being woken up at the normal time, and extra early just gets him moodier) so i had just asked her to start a convo (i was bored) and she said she didnt know she would ask the lady in charge....and i didnt say i was going or anything, and yeah we were both supposed to go to this tuition place except i couldnt sign up for it cause it was full, adn i didnt see her all day so couldnt tell her, (and i kinda forgot) anyways when i saw her she got all attitudey again.
and I DONT WANT TO BE THE ONE APPOLIGIZING!!!
cause i am tired of apoligizing, and talking about it with her isnt going to help either cause she'll just turn it around on me, and i am "shy" so she'll probably win ,and the thing is she is a good friend, she waits with me after school when my mom is about to pick me up, (when were not fighting) adn she gives me cookies she baked herself, which is really nice cause she doesnt really like them much.
But my mom makes muffins and i bring them for her sometimes, and she isnt really considerate about them, i mean if i dont bring them she gets all moody
"HOW COULD YOU NOT BRING MUFFINS"
which makes me NOT evr wanna bring them
and yeah she gives me cookies but apparently me giving her muffins isnt teh same cause she bakes cookies and my mom makes the ones i give...
so yeah I need advice, our friendship is evidently not "healthy"
and i still want to be friends with her, but i dont want to talk to her about it
cause she'll just change it
and i dont want to be the one always apoligizing!!
please give me some advice
Edited by MisaSayu - 26 February 2009 at 7:18pm