Originally posted by *Woh Ajnabee*
Originally posted by return_to_hades
Unfortunately - we have had a long line of irresponsible parenting in society. I look at some parents and just think - they should not be having kids. I wish I had the ability to go and say look you are incapable and hence I revoke your reproduction rights, you are and will never be fit to have child. It reminds me a lot of the movie "Idiocracy". The dumb people are reproducing like bunnies while the smart people, want to be responsible, think, wait, make the right decision at the right time. The net result is a world full of crazy reproducing bunnies. Unfortunately, that just made me sound like a Nazi who wanted to revive th Nazi system of selective reproduction. It is socially and morally unpalatable that we tell which parents can reproduce or not. Ahh yes, I knew you held Nazi-"istic" ideals deep down. Kidding. Yes, that is true, we do find adults in society that should not be parents. However, there's nothing that we can do. And although I hate to generalize, its people like this who shouldn't have had kids in the first place that do, then practice poor parenting skills, then complain about losing control of their teenage children when things like this happen. Again, not trying to generalize here, but I do feel there is a correlation between these things.
I think it is a huge Catch-22 when it comes to many moral issues like parenting. What you and I perceive to be good parenting, maybe too much or too little for other people. Like I truly wish that I could stop some people from being parents - but then that very thought is against my personal philosophy of not dictating my morals on other people.
We also tend to be too judgmental at times. Like in the movie 'Juno', I love the way her mother snaps and defends her daughter when the doctor makes snide comments on her teenage pregnancy. After all even though Juno made an irresponsible and stupid choice and got pregnant - she is doing the right thing by trying to give birth and find a good adopted parents. While on the other hand we have so called rich educated traditional families who give birth to children but totally ignore them for their entire lives and have them raised by nannies.
Movies like 'Saved', 'Juno' and the TV show 'Secret Life' really makes people question our pre-conceptions of morality, teenage pregnancy and parenting. It is never black and white - so many shades of gray. The best we can do is build understanding I guess.