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Posted: 21 October 2005 at 9:49am | IP Logged
Love or Arrange, marriage takes alot out of you, you have to work really hard to make it work. I had a love marriage, I knew him since we were in elementry school and now have been married for almost 4 years and have 2 beautiful kids. Love or arrange you can never know how its going to be until you start living with the person.
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Posted: 21 October 2005 at 11:57am | IP Logged
I'd go for love and arrange marriages!!!!!

If love marriage is arranged it means so much more!

But I wouldn't go for love marriage offending my family!
divyagirl Goldie
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Posted: 24 October 2005 at 5:53pm | IP Logged

Well I might choose a love marriage but if I don't get married by the age of 25 then I might have an arranged marriage.

MonicA#1Actress Goldie
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Posted: 24 October 2005 at 7:22pm | IP Logged
Originally posted by divyagirl

Would you have a arranged marriage or a love marriage? I'm wondering because you can't always trust someone if you have a love marriage but you don't get to choose who you want to get marry if you have an arranged marriage.

Well.....in my family, the girl would visit a boy's house, talk to the boy for 30 min. or so, and decide if she wants to marry him or not.

Hmmm I think that is fair!! Big smile

But I want a arranged marriage!Confused

You know, arrange marriage with the person I love!Wink

mistystar Senior Member
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Posted: 26 October 2005 at 2:03am | IP Logged
Originally posted by divyagirl

Would you have a arranged marriage or a love marriage? I'm wondering because you can't always trust someone if you have a love marriage but you don't get to choose who you want to get marry if you have an arranged marriage.

Well.....in my family, the girl would visit a boy's house, talk to the boy for 30 min. or so, and decide if she wants to marry him or not.




unfortunately, neither is 100% guarantee of working out perfectly. both have their pros and cons

Pros:

Arranged: because it is arranged by your parents, you know they have picked someone out that is compatible with you and will keep you happy.

Love: You are marrying someone you love. how much more pro can you get?

Cons:

Arranged: sometimes the person isnt as compatible as you thought. because you dont know this person, you could slowly realize that there is nothing about him/her that you can love.

Love: same as arranged. interesting, no?
uma_shanmugam Senior Member
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Posted: 26 October 2005 at 3:51am | IP Logged
My preference goes for Love Marriages... u know the person b4 u marry Smile Loving stage is so nice.. so have to feel tht b4 marriage. Love after arranged marriage is totally different feeling I guess. But love b4 marriage and continous as spouse is simply sweet Embarrassed
Life for Rent Goldie
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Posted: 26 October 2005 at 9:53am | IP Logged
it depends.. there is no gurantee hat arrange marrige will be perfect or love.........

so its depends on sitution , time , and ppl
mistystar Senior Member
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Posted: 26 October 2005 at 10:10am | IP Logged
i would go for love too...its not because i dont think arranged marriages wont work, its because there are some qualities about me that not many guys would like and i would prefer for a guy to be ok with those qualities before we get married so he wont have probs later. for example, im perhaps the most emotional person in the world. i cry at almost anything. and im pretty sure not alot of guys would like someone sobbing in front of them for no rhyme or reason every 2 seconds.

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