Originally posted by: iluvyrkkh
I think when we say arranged marriages it immediatly gives the perception of being something forced and negative...but the only difference is that in love marriages you choose your partner and in arranged marriages your parents do...I think arranged marriages are definitly safer since our parents look at all aspects of the boy, including family, culture, background etc and make sure it matches with our upbringing and lifestyle so that we can easily fit in to the new household...
Rarely...
Not all families can research enough into how the other person (prospective groom)thinks!
I've seen a lot of cases where the prospective groom has lied (for example on no. of previous marriages, or mental health)...
no one is a mind reader. We need time to see what the other person's personality is like! at least 6 months. Seen Rakhi ka Swayambar? and how many bad grooms there were there?
Love marriage might be more of external appearences than the more important things of life...
erm no.... love marriages doesn't mean marraige due to attraction ...In love marriages at least the couple can see whether the other person is suitable for their characteristics. U cant judge a person and their family in just 1 day or thru shaadi.com by what they've written in their biodata🤣
and there is nothing to say that there is no love after marriage.
what if u dont fall in love with ur partner after marriage? what if u dont get on well with that person?
You definily fall in love
how can u be so sure? not necessarily! again I can think of lots of cases where actually the true colours of the groom and his family have come out AFTER marriage.
and share that special relationship with your spouse...And today even in arranged marriages the girl and boy spend time with each other and get to know each other before they tie the knot...
not always
anyone can seem like a good person in just a few weeks...but u need at least 6 months to see what the person is REALLY like!
The only type of marriage that I dont works is the eloping wale marriages and as it happens in most films also where the girl eventually comes back...
they're FICTIONAL films..and they emphasise on the romance part of it...thats their job.
it happens in reality also...or even if they leave their family that sadness is always there...just my opinion and maybe its easy for me to say since I knew my husband long before we decided to get married and our parents arranged it for us..but it was not the filmy wala love marriage...
but u knew ur husband b4 getting married to him- so thats different.
Some arranged marriages do work...but not all! (as I've seen)!
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